I’m calling for female Volunteers to participate in a study I’m conducting on female sexual archetypes. I’ll use the results to refine my concepts and provide information for the book I’m working on to do with female sexuality and particularly female sexuality.

 

Through all my clinical work, running women’s sexual empowerment workshops, and generally talking pretty well non-stop about sex with all sorts of people, it’s clear to me that many women lack sexual confidence and they have difficulty expressing themselves sexually.

 

Often women have very limited ideas of how they can express themselves sexuality, often the choice is as limited as the ‘porn star’ or the ‘prude’, other women can only express themselves in reaction to their partner.

 

One reason for this could be the lack of ‘acceptable’ ways for a woman to express herself sexually in this society, or simply a lack of understanding of the breadth of possibilities.

 

Conversely some women are very confident and expressive.

 

So why are these women different? Certainly there are personality differences and belief systems that affect a woman’s sexual confidence and expression. What I’m wondering though, iw whether there is a common underlying ‘potential’ in all women, which some are more successfully tapping into than others?

 

 

Hypothesis

 

My hypothesis is that we do have sexual archetypes innate within us. These are aspects of ourselves common to all women, which can be tapped into to enable a more real, broader and more fulfilling sexual expression.

 

I have identified 14 distinct female sexual archetypes. These have been identified based on seven sets of opposing energies. Each archetype has a different energy ‘signature’, with a different form of feeling and expression.

 

These archetypes are not role-plays, they come from within. So whereas a role-play is more of an outside-in expression, an archetype is more of an inside-out expression. It’s something real within the woman, rather than an act she’s doing for entertainment. (Although it’s likely that in some cases it might be hard to know if one is an act or real, and maybe there’s an element of ‘fake it till you make’, with a play-act becoming something real.)

 

I’m sure there are certain archetypes that an individual woman resonates most strongly to, some that she could tap into at times, and others that don’t feel right at all. One of the questions I’m looking to answer is whether all these archetypes are in everyone and can be accessed by everyone, or not.

 

I surmise that the archetypes can make sex more varied and enjoyable in general. I’m also curious to know whether certain ones can be channelled to assist in certain situations. For instance:

• the tired new mother who can’t be bothered might channel her inner Vamp to be more self-focused and self-indulgent sexually;
• a woman whose partner is complaining she never initiates might find her inner Dominatrix comes in useful;
• a woman wanting to try something new might feel less self-conscious if she channels her inner Bimbo with a ditzy “well, whatever, let’s give this a go!”;
• a woman might give her partner a completely focused treat on his birthday by channeling her inner Courtesan;
• a woman who’s newly single after a long relationship might find it easier to get dating again by channeling her inner Bawd (party girl);
• a woman who finds she’s too maliable by men might find channeling her inner Ice Queen a useful way to give herself space; 
• a woman who finds she has trouble letting go during sex and reaching her orgasmic potential, might channel her inner Wild Cat;
• and I believe every woman should know her inner Bombshell, that part of her that simply emanates sexuality without doing a thing…

Approach

To get more information on these concepts I’m asking female voluneeters to see what happens when they try to access a particular archetype for a week at a time. I’ll provide detailed descriptions of my understanding of the archetype, plus visualisations and affirmations. Then throughout the week each Volunteer will note how she feels about accessing this archetype, noting things such as:

• is it easy or difficult;
• what helped or hindered;
• does it feel natural, a true expression of self, or more of a role-play;
• did it help or hinder her sexual confidence, her sexual expression;
• how did it affect her desire for sex;
• how did it affect her responsiveness in sex (ie arousal and orgasm);
• did it affect her in non-sexual situations;
• how did her partner, or others, react;
• are there particular situations where she feels accessing this archetype would be helpful?

 

Volunteers are asked to do a minimum of four archetypes, including ones they resonate easily with and ones they don’t. At the end of the week each Volunteer will fill in a simple form describing her experience and send it to me. I will use the information supplied to refine my concepts, and for material for my book, tentatively titled ‘HERS’.

 

Participation in the study is completely confidential, and all material will be used confidentially, unless otherwise agreed with the volunteer in question.

 

This material may also be used for further academic and research purposes with the intent of developing a practical methodology for clinical practice. The same confidentiality will of course apply.

If you're interested in volunteering, please contact me. And please spread the word, the more women involved the more valid and useful the results!

(And yes, there will be a men's study later.)