About Jacqueline

Hi. I'm one of Australia’s foremost experts on sex and sexuality. In addition to my private clinical practice, I'm regularly seen in the media - I'm the Sex Coach for Men's Health and Women's Health magazines, as well as being called on frequently for professional comment for print, radio and TV media - I'm on the public speaking circuit, am a published author, have a growing web presence and run Tantric Fusion workshops.

I am unabashedly fascinated by sex in all its aspects, from the biological to the psychological to the spiritual. I believe sex is a celebration of life and our sexual energy is our fundamental life energy. I am committed to enabling women, men and couples to become fully in touch with their sexuality so that they can use this powerful energy to create extraordinary lives for themselves.

In my coaching, speaking and workshops I bring my extensive knowledge and life experience, combining the wisdom of the ancients with the best of modern scientific knowledge and therapeutic practice.

I fully embody the Tantric and Taoist approaches in my own life: I have a black belt in aikido, have practised yoga and meditation for decades, am well-read in eastern and western philosophy, speak five languages, have four degrees, have lived and travelled around the world, and live in Sydney, Australia with my three delightful children.

Qualifications

I have a string of letters after my name: a Bachelor of Science in biochemistry and human sciences, a Graduate Diploma in Applied Science, a Bachelor of Arts in languages and literature, and a Masters Degree in Sexual Health. I'm also a Professional Certified Coach having completed a two-year certificate with the International Coach Academy and over 1000 hours of coaching.

I am a professional member of the Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists, and an active member of the International Coach Federation, the world's leading professional body for coaching.

Check out this inspiring and sexy multimedia presentation I created to show my quest in life:

My Philosophy

My personal philosophy forms the basis of my coaching, my writing and my life. It has developed over years of practicing aikido and yoga and an interest in eastern and western philosophies, as well as working in the environment field for many years. Here's a brief overview:

Centre

Centredness is about living from our centres, not being all over the place. Take a moment to note where your breathing is - are you breathing up high into your chest or shoulders, or deep into your belly? When you move do you feel drawn by your shoulders and head or pushed from your hips? When you operate from a position of centre you are calmer and clearer. If you lose your equilibrium and become flustered, angry or nervous, returning to your centre brings back the clarity and calmness.

Presence

Presence is the state of being aware of the here and now. It's also called 'Mindfullness'. So often we are thinking or worrying about everything other than what is going on right now. Presence is about being centred and focused on the present. Practise it when you're doing the most mundane activities, like washing the dishes: focus fully on the dishes and the experience. Not only will living in a state of presence make life more meaningful and enjoyable, it will help you when things are tough (while getting the kids fed, bathed and off to bed springs to mind!) and can accentuate positive experiences (such as dining or love-making).

Flow

You know when you are in a state of flow - things happen smoothly and effortlessly, as opposed to when it feels like you're battling the whole universe. There are always obstacles in life, flow is about going around them, not pushing against them or giving up in front of them.

Sexual Sublimation

Your sexuality is a powerful force for good in your life - if you embrace it and enhance it and direct it. Rather than seeing sex as something separate from the rest of life, feel it as the essence of your life. Sex is life! Your sexual energy is your life energy. It creates wholeness in your body, it connects you with the spiritual, it fuels your passions and enables you to achieve your desires. We are blessed with this energy, the secret is not to subdue it, not to dissipate it, but to channel it through centre, mindfulness and flow... Then watch miracles manifest in your life!

And life is full of wonderful paradoxes:

Serious playfulness

Sure life is serious, but you don't have to take it seriously. Problems are rarely solved by becoming all tight and worrying about them. When you find yourself taking things too seriously, it's a sure sign that you need to lighten up to make a breakthrough.

Abundant simplicity

To have a life of abundance you need to keep it simple. Too much mental and physical clutter interferes with the space for abundance to come into your life.

Relaxed passion

A relaxed approach to life, to even the most important aspects of it, enables your passions to stay flowing and not become obsessions. It keeps your mind open where otherwise you might miss what else is going on – not heeding dangers and missing opportunities.

Freedom through structure

To have the ability to move freely and lightly through the world it is important to have structure underlying you. Structure doesn’t mean being tight and enclosed. It’s like the difference between trying to launch yourself from a solid rock or from soft sand – you’ll have a lot more success from the rock.

Selfish selflessness

You can do more for others and the world if you look after yourself first. By keeping yourself hale and healthy you have more personal resources to give to others. It’s like the oxygen masks in an airplane: parents have to attach their own before they attach their children’s – a suffocating adult is no help to a child.

The perfection of imperfection

Life isn’t perfect –  that’s what’s so perfect about it! Once you accept life’s imperfections you’ll realise its perfection and feel a darn site more content about the whole thing. In fact you'll feel more than content, you'll feel the innate joy of living. Through letting go of beliefs and expectations you free yourself up to have your true self come through in all its strength, love and lightness.