Sex Therapist, Relationship Coach & Tantra Teacher

Hello, I'm Jacqueline Hellyer. I'm one of Australia's foremost experts in positive sex, sexuality and relationships. In my role as sex coach, sex therapist and tantra expert, I offer expert support around sex, love and intimacy.

My knowledge and experience is as broad as it gets, and I share it in an open, practical and inspiring way. My effective and liberating approach allows you to:

  • Look at your issues comfortably and openly
  • Increase knowledge and confidence
  • Find greater sexual, relationship and personal fulfillment.

I offer:

  • Sex therapy and relationship coaching in Sydney (and via skype) for individuals and couples;
  • Tantra Fusion workshops, seminars and retreats; and
  • Sex and relationship advice through my books, videos, pocketbooks, Q&As and media appearances.

Your sexuality can be a powerful force for good in your life - if you embrace it, enhance it and direct it. Let me help you become confident, creative and connected... Then watch miracles manifest in your life!

Private Sessions:

Sex therapy, relationship coaching and more.

Tantra Workshops:

Sexual empowerment workshops and events.

Jacqueline's Shop:

Pocketbooks, videos, books and play products.

Latest news

  • Couples Tantra Retreat in Vietnam more...
  • Blackbelt in the Bedroom Men's Seminar more...
  • Luscious & Tantric Lovers Workshops  more...
  • Sex Secrets for Busy People as E-Book! more...
  • What is Tantra? - read my pocketbook! more...

On my blog...

The Etiquette of Observing Breasts

Posted 31-Jan-2012

I was asked this question from a chap in America:
"Recently I asked the folks at "Dear Cupid" a question about the etiquette of when a man may permissably glance at a woman's breasts. For some reason they found my question "innappropriate to publish." To me given the fact that heterosexual relationships start with a man and women visually interacting with one another that the question of when it is okay to glance at a woman's breasts seems extraordinarily fundamental. Many men don't seem to know that it isn't bad to look because hardly anybody tells them they can. So what is the deal and can't somebody write something on this?" 
This was my reply:
Regarding men looking at women's breasts - of course you like it, it's natural! That's why women evolved breasts, because we walk upright so you see her chest (you don't need obvious breasts to breastfeed a child, other primates don't have them, and very flat-chested women can nurse just fine).


In fact, a study (whose reference escapes me) proved that when men look at women's breasts every day, even photos of breasts, they were much calmer and happier than men who didn't.

As to the etiquette of looking at women's breasts. Just be subtle, no woman wants a man to address her breasts rather than her face when they're talking. If you have a partner, admire her breasts often, and otherwise enjoy the discrete appreciation of the women around you.


I was asked this question from a chap in America:
"Recently I asked the folks at "Dear Cupid" a question about the etiquette of when a man may permissably glance at a woman's breasts. For some reason they found my question "innappropriate to publish." To me given the fact that heterosexual relationships start with a man and women visually interacting with one another that the question of when it is okay to glance at a woman's breasts seems extraordinarily fundamental. Many men don't seem to know that it isn't bad to look because hardly anybody tells them they can. So what is the deal and can't somebody write something on this?" 
This was my reply:
Regarding men looking at women's breasts - of course you like it, it's natural! That's why women evolved breasts, because we walk upright so you see her chest (you don't need obvious breasts to breastfeed a child, other primates don't have them, and very flat-chested women can nurse just fine).
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What is Sex Therapy, Sex Coaching and Tantra Teaching?

Posted 24-Jan-2012

I'm often asked what's the difference between sex therapy and coaching, and where Tantra fits in.

In a nutshell, Sex Therapy fixes sexual dysfunctions to make people sexually functional. Sex (and Relationship) Coaching, takes functional people and makes them exceptional. As I do both, I can help you fix the problems, and then take you beyond - far beyond - into the realm of exceptional! That's where the Tantra comes in.


What is Sex Therapy?
Sex Therapy is a modality of sexual healing to help people with sexual dysfunctions become sexually functional. This involves addressing the psychological barriers to sexual health and well-being as well as providing sexual education and correction of limiting or false beliefs around sex and sexuality. Once healing has occurred, Sex Coaching can then take the individual or client to greater sexual awareness and fulfillment.

What is Sex Coaching?
Sex Coaching is pathway for sexual growth. Sex Coaching is a client-focused approach that works with sexually functional individuals and couples to enable them to deepen and expand their experience of sex, love and intimacy. Depending on the needs of the client, it may include ancient and esoteric teachings (see Tantra Teaching), sex education and instruction. The Coach helps the client to discover and enhance their own eroticism to create a love life that is one of ongoing growth and fulfillment.

What is Relationship Coaching?
Relationship coaching is a professional client-focused service where an essentially functional individual or couple is guided to create their desired relationship with effective support and information. The Coach enables the client(s) to become clear about their needs, hopes and desires, and to develop understandings and strategies to achieve these in a mutually supportive way. While past hurts and history may be addressed, the focus is more on moving forward, with the aim of enabling ongoing personal and relationship growth.

What is Tantra Teaching?
Tantra is a spiritual and energetic approach to sex and life that comes from ancient India. Along with the Taoists of China and Qidosha from North America, these approaches to sex, love and intimacy are much broader and deeper than conventional western understandings. Through practices that include breathing, mindfulness, moving energy and sensual touch, you will learn to connect with your partner is a way that is real, deep, erotic, poetic and intensely beautiful. Tantra sessions do not involve nudity or intimate touch - that’s the homework!


Book in for private sessions or attend Tantra Fusion Workshops to take your relationship and sex life to functional and beyond!

I'm often asked what's the difference between sex therapy and coaching, and where Tantra fits in.

In a nutshell, Sex Therapy fixes sexual dysfunctions to make people sexually functional. Sex (and Relationship) Coaching, takes functional people and makes them exceptional. As I do both, I can help you fix the problems, and then take you beyond - far beyond - into the realm of exceptional! That's where the Tantra comes in. more...

The World is Waking to Conscious Sex

Posted 17-Jan-2012

2012 has long been declared the year of change, some seeing it as the end of the world, and others as the end of our old, limited ways of thinking. I’m sure it’s the latter. 

I’ve spent my whole life exploring spirituality and consciousness (of which you well know I believe sexuality to be an important component). I used to have to do it almost in secret and was considered odd if anyone knew about it. In my undergraduate science degree I was scoffed at by the lecturers, yet now I’m constantly reading books on scientists and academics on spirituality and science, and the unfolding knowledge around consciousness is so exciting, really bringing together ancient wisdom with modern scientific knowledge.


I do believe the overall consciousness of humanity has reached a level where enough people are of a sufficiently high level that real and lasting positive change can happen here on Earth. More and more I notice people coming to me, knowing there has to be more to sex, somehow intuiting that sex can be an integral part to a life lived on a higher plane of consciousness. That sex can be creative, that making love mindfully enhances life and makes one grow.

And I am so glad that I am in a position to help everyone realise that for themselves!

Expand your own sexual consciousness this year with private sessions or attend the lusciously inspiring Tantra Fusion Workshops.

2012 has long been declared the year of change, some seeing it as the end of the world, and others as the end of our old, limited ways of thinking. I’m sure it’s the latter. 

I’ve spent my whole life exploring spirituality and consciousness (of which you well know I believe sexuality to be an important component). I used to have to do it almost in secret and was considered odd if anyone knew about it. In my undergraduate science degree I was scoffed at by the lecturers, yet now I’m constantly reading books on scientists and academics on spirituality and science, and the unfolding knowledge around consciousness is so exciting, really bringing together ancient wisdom with modern scientific knowledge. more...

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TESTIMONIALS

"A huge thank you with all my heart for the unique and beautiful experience that you created for all of us on the weekend. It was such a magnificent experience and I am amazed at how much the Luscious Woman weekend boosted my confidence, I feel fantastic. What you give to others is such a beautiful gift you’re an inspiration to everyone around you".

"A massive thank you for all your guidance and wisdom. Your sex therapy played a very significant role in changing our lives forever."

"A wonderful authentic experience"

"Absolutely amazing Luscious Woman workshop, thank-you sooooooo much!"

"Before meeting Jacqueline we were “fumbling around in the dark”, I couldn’t go the distance and this left my beloved underwhelmed. We were caught in the daily grind, were sexually frustrated and wanting a more satisfying experience. Since Jacqueline’s sex coaching our lovemaking has become light-hearted, our lives filled with romance, dating, petting, smooches. When we make love the time is intimate, fun, erotic, orgasmic and/or all of the above. We’ve never been happier, whole or as complete – and can’t thank you enough."

"Fabulous"

"From me a huge hug and big big thank you for the wonderful content, presentation at Luscious Lovers, and most of all the love you shared with us."


"Great to get insights into how a woman is thinking and feeling during sex."

"I applied everything you taught at Blackbelt and had the most intense sex ever!"

"I can honestly say that I'd be separated and on my way to divorce if not for you slapping me into shape."

"I contacted Jacqueline with the dread of having sex and not really liking my "bits". I am proud to say that with her sex therapy, today I now initiate sex and am way less shy to share my "bits" with my partner. "

"I didn't know what I didn't know!" 

"I feel entirely transformed. It's not new in the doing, but the sense of self residing within has changed - and that has changed everything."

"I feel privileged to have shared your wisdom."

"I had no idea someone like you existed, I'm so glad you do and that I found you!"

"I have done Jacqueline's Blackbelt in the Bedroom course twice now, and I may go back for a third. Its like they say practise makes perfect, and this is one practise I really really really enjoy!!! "

"I have realised so much about my self and my sexuality, your Luscious Woman workshop has changed the way I see sex."

"I just wanted to say a quick thank you. My girlfriend is absolutely in raptures because of what I can do to make her feel almost an inch towards heaven. A lot of it has been your wise words and your philosophy. The main thing that you said, was its not the pursuit of the orgasm but the enjoyment of the whole journey, and I have made that my own now. Thank you again, you have made be able to give her everything that she richly deserves in the bedroom."

"I just wanted to thank you for all your coaching in the past. I am now living life to the fullest and loving every minute of it"

"I learned so much at Luscious Woman and feel better about many things - more empowered and definitely more luscious."

"I loved my time at the Luscious Lovers workshop - truly amazing."

“I loved Tantric Lovers - my love life has SOOO shifted to another level….you showed me in an amazing way, how I was able to tap into a field of energy that I didn’t realize existed when it comes to lovemaking and intimacy which shifts the whole experience to another level. I am now better able to remain focused and present to the whole experience."



"I loved the experiential nature of Luscious Lovers - it was brilliant and acted as a stimulus to reconnecting."

"I loved the Luscious Woman weekend thank you so much for putting on such a professional and tasteful workshop."

"I loved your humour and relaxed facilitation. It really disarmed everyone in a good way!"

"I often reflect on what a wonderful person you are and what a beautiful gift you share with others. I love your passion for helping others and one day I hope I gain enough wisdom to help others in your footsteps. I will continually look out for others in need and highly recommend you where ever I go, as I think this world needs so many more amazing people like yourself to uplift and brighten the lives of those in need."

"I really enjoyed your Luscious Woman workshop, it was a great experience. You have a special gift :-)"

"At Blackbelt I really got what it means to come into my masculine sexual energy, with strength and confidence and no macho or aggression. Feels great! (And my wife is beaming!)"


"By attending your Luscious Woman workshop I was able to see women from a much more positive light, we're so gorgeous and sexy! I'll never be so critical about myself or other women again. What a relief!"

"I wish I could do the Luscious Woman weekend every month!"

"I would like to deeply thank you for all your support and sharing your wisdom with me. Since our first sex therapy session I have learned to orgasm and break my limiting belief that I was a non orgasmic women for 27 years! I will never forget the beautiful gift that you have given me, my gratitude for your kindness will always be something I reflect on for the rest of my life."

"I would love to do this every day!"

"In the couple of years since we saw you I realise that my wife has never rejected me. That's a testament to your skill as a sex therapist!"

"Inspired, oohhh yeah, what wonderful timing for us just the injection we both needed."

"Inspiring!"

"It was ALL great for igniting the inner goddess!!! I've been on a flow ever since the Luscious Woman weekend!!!"

"It was great to hang out with such cool guys at Blackbelt in the Bedroom, no jocks or dickheads."

"It was so good to connect with other women at Luscious Woman and be open about our sexuality. It was reassuring to know that everyone has issues, timid ones like me and the sexually adventurous."

"It was so good to take time out to reconnect."

"It was such a beautiful experience to be surrounded by so much love. Thank you for filling up our love bank!"

"I've done Blackbelt in the Bedroom twice it's so good. There's nowhere else you can get this quality of information explained clearly and boldly. It's made a huge difference to my life."

"I've never felt so comfortable with someone so confronting!"

"Jacqueline has done it again! What a way to reconnect for Valentine's Day. I'm so glad that we invested our money in Tantric Lovers, rather than chocolates and roses! The course helped us remember the importance of completely "being" with each other - not just physically, but on a much deeper level. We will take this into the bedroom and practice the art of real love-making, not just sex!"

"Jacqueline is an inspiration!"

"Jacqueline's workshops are fun, informative, sensual, and in many ways deeply profound." 

"Just wanted to let you know that we enjoyed Luscious Lovers last Sunday immensely. Happy to say that we really connected that day and had some of the most amazing sex when we got home!!!!
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"Loved the practical demo, thanks for being so bold."

"Luscious Lovers was so good we're back to do it a second time!"

"Luscious Woman was so useful and very much applies to the modern lush woman who wants to feel and be even more empowered!"

"My husband says he's so pleased I made him attend Luscious Lovers. Since Saturday we have noticed a real shift in our energies towards each other almost like switching from AM to FM radio, the difference is that noticeable."

"My love life has so shifted to another level….you showed me in an amazing way, how I was able to tap into a field of energy that I didn’t realize existed when it comes to lovemaking and intimacy which shifts the whole experience to another level."

"My partner and I feel closer since the Luscious Lovers workshop. Before this my partner said he felt a lot of pressure to live up to a macho male image, but when he saw how much other men were willing to give the gentle tantric caressing to their partners, he's started doing this at home. For me, this workshop has given me the courage to experiment, I can bring my fantasies to life instead of keeping them only in my mind."


"My partner said within 24 hours: "that Luscious Woman course you did was well worth every cent you paid for it!"

"No-one felt intimidated - it was relaxing and natural to partake in the activities."

"Omigawd thank you so much... We had the most amazing 'homework' experience after our sex coaching session!"

"Provided a new freedom"

"Really got a lot out of it and learned a lot"

"Really got a lot out of Luscious Woman and learned a lot"

"So good to get practical information that's solid, real and not at all sleazy."

"Such beautiful people - it was a real joy!"

"Thank you for such a unique and positive experience. It's very refreshing to interact and see so many couples still so deeply in love after so many years. Today society puts too much focus on divorce and negativity and not enough time on teaching couples the amazing re-connecting techniques that we learnt in your wonderful workshops. We loved every minute of our Tantric Lovers experience. It was such a beautiful experience to be surrounded by so much love. Thank you for filling up our love bank!"

"Thank- you so much for creating such an amazing, truly luscious weekend where a woman can really explore herself and her hidden potential. I'm still glowing from the experience and whenever I think about it, I get a little cheeky smile. I've gone from feeling somewhat inhibited to warmly embracing my sexual self and its expression."

"Thank you so much for all your help and inspiration over the last five months....don't think we would have made it this far without you!!!"

"Thank you very much for running the Tantric Lovers workshop. It was fabulous! It was a great day spent expressing and learning to express even deeper our love for each other. It has had a lovely positive effect on our relationship, and this boosted love has extended out to all other relationships in my life. It’s brought a spark to my life for ‘communion’. And with the basket of golden-egg goodies (exercises) we received on the day, I feel resourced-up to explore what was previously unknown and a little intimidating."

"Thanks again for your brilliant life-changing support of my wife and I."

"Thanks for an inspirational and informative session
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"Thanks for last week's Blackbelt session, I certainly took a lot away from it."

"Thanks for the inspiration!"

"Thanks Jacqueline for Blackbelt in the Bedroom last night, an absolutely amazing course."

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Thanks Jacqueline, we both had an extraordinary day

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"Thanks Jacqueline, we both had an extraordinary day."

"Thank you for a wonderful day at Tantric Lovers. We certainly both found it enjoyable, beneficial and more! It was the breakthrough we’ve been searching for."

"Thank you for a wonderful day at Tantric Lovers. We certainly both found it enjoyable, beneficial and more! It was the breakthrough we’ve been searching for."

"Thank-you for an awesome day, it was perfect in every way."


"Thank you so much for your professionalism, passion and dedication – your honesty and integrity shine."

"Thank-you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX U R wonderful"

"The Blackbelt workshop felt great and I was blown away by how brave you are to do this kind of thing with a room full of strange men and how gorgeous the energy around you is."

"The coaching has been great, I feel privileged to have shared your wisdom."

"The course helped us remember the importance of completely "being" with each other - not just physically, but on a much deeper level. We will take this into the bedroom and practice the art of real love-making, not just sex!"

"The Luscious Woman course was AMAZING and wonderful. So informative, liberating and empowering."

"The empowerment you provide people with through your sex therapy and tantra workshops is inspirational, life changing and the beauty of it is that you don't give them power, you don't even create it, it just simply manifests itself through the opportunities you so strategically present."

"The Luscious Woman weekend was great for me, I think working on the solution instead of the problem has taken me further forward then anything else I have tried. I am looking at making love in a whole different way."

"Blackbelt in the Bedroom was the most amazingly useful workshop I have ever done!"

"The re-connecting techniques we've learned in your couples workshops are amazing."

"The Tantric Lovers course helped us remember the importance of completely "being" with each other - not just physically, but on a much deeper level. We will take this into the bedroom and practice the art of real love-making, not just sex!"

"The Tantric Lovers workshop opened us up more to the joys of exploring our connection and ourselves from an ‘energetic’ point of view, and the flow on from that and the gorgeous day we spent with you has been profound, meaningful and self sustaining for us."

"The world is a clearer place now, things are a lot lighter!"

"Things have improved dramatically via the techniques learned through our sex therapy sessions."

"Useful, loving information."

"We have noticed a real shift in our energies towards each other almost like switching from AM to FM radio, the difference is that noticeable."

"We really enjoyed the Luscious Lovers workshop, so much so that we raced home afterwards and got it on! Grrrrrrrrr to say the least – Lol."


"We really love coming to see you, as you offer us such support and have made a huge difference to our lives."

"We used to fight constantly about sex, I never thought we'd find a way out. Then we found you and with your sex therapy that's all changed. You're awesome!"

"We've been having a lovely increase in intimacy and fun and insight since doing your two fantastic workshops, Luscious Lovers and Tantric Lovers."

"We've just spent a wonderful weekend workshopping with Jacqueline. Her workshops are fun, informative, sensual, and in many ways deeply profound - the weekend brought us closer in ways we could never have imagined. Thank-you for filling up our love bank!"

"What a super girly treat!"

"What have you done to my wife!! I'm loving it. I think I am your new best friend! I am telling everyone who cares to listen about your Tantra Fusion workshops. "

"What you give to others is such a beautiful gift you’re an inspiration to everyone around you".

"Working on the solution instead of the problem has taken me further forward then anything else I have tried."

“WOW! THANK YOU for making the day really special for us and highlighting some of the simple things we can do as Luscious Lovers."


"You are a relationship genius!"

"You have a way of opening me up and reading me like a book. I've taken a tremendous amount away from our sex therapy sessions."

"You saved our marriage. Thank-you!"

"You truly have a gift Jacqueline!"

"Your sex coaching helped save me from a life so ordinary, I'm forever grateful."

"Your Tantra Fusion workshops are fundamental to the health and sustainability of all relationships, regardless. In this faster than ever paced world, over stimulated and titillated, and where choice and everything-can-be-had as a retail experience is omnipresent, your guidance is like a light through the darkness..."

"Your workshops are amazing"

"You're the most confronting person I've ever felt so comfortable with!"

"You've changed the whole way I look at sex, now I feel so much more positive and free and empowered!"

"You've filled  a lot of gaps in my knowledge with your sex coaching."

"You've shown me how to feel the way I've always wanted to. Thank-you for deliciously weaving my spirit and sexuality back together."

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