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Melting Moments

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, July 02, 2017


There are many melting moments during quality sex.

Moments where there is a sense of melting:

  • melting into relaxation, 
  • melting into bliss,
  • melting away tension,
  • melting into your partner, 
  • pelvic melting, 
  • abdominal melting,
  • heart melting
  • throat melting
  • consciousness melting
Moments of melting leading to moments of rapture. read more...



Savouring Sex

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, April 09, 2017

 
I just had a week in private retreat, a time for reflection and contemplation. I was fortunate to stay in a friend’s beautiul beachside house in Sydney’s northern beaches.

It was a time to simply be rather than do, to feel rather than think.

A time to savour life.

Most of us are far too busy doing and pushing to actually be and feel what we’re doing. In life, and in sex.

Sex is not a race to the big ‘O’, it’s not a performance for the benefit of our partner, it’s a shared experience of pleasure, exquisitely felt and perfectly savoured. read more...



Receptive is not Passive

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, February 19, 2017


To awaken your body to subtlety and exquisite sensation, you need to have heightened sensitivity. This takes strong connection and deep feeling. There’s no way you’d get that level of connection and feeling through being passive. read more...



The Sexual Glutton vs The Sexual Gourmet

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, May 29, 2016

I was chatting to a good friend recently who, like many people, loves sex and loves the general topic of sex. He was musing on whether he might possibly be a sex addict given that he’s so fascinated, possibly even obsessed, by the topic. My reply was: “I hope not, because that would make me one too!”

It got me thinking, because I have done on-line “Are you a Sex Addict’ type quizzes, and according to some of them I certainly would be a sex addict because thinking about sex takes up so much of my time and sex in general plays such a big part of my life.  read more...



Relax Into Orgasm

Jacqueline Hellyer - Friday, March 18, 2016



Relax your hips,

relax your buttocks,

relax your abdomen,

breathe read more...



It All Starts With a Kiss…

Jacqueline Hellyer - Friday, February 19, 2016



Lips part, faces draw near, lips touch. 

Close your eyes and imagine this, feel it, fully present in your lips, in your tongue. 

Your lips are soft, testing, sensing. Your mouth is relaxed, your tongue gentle. read more...



Make Love Like You’re Playing An Instrument For Ultimate Sensual Pleasure

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, June 30, 2015



I was watching a video of 2Cellos playing recently. So erotic! So voyeuristic - like watching them have sex with their instruments. read more...



Heightening Sensory Pleasure

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, December 09, 2014

Sexual pleasure involves so much more than just what your genitals are doing.

Engaging the senses is a crucial element to heightening sexual pleasure.

Just as the experience is more enjoyable and satisfying the more you engage the senses and make it a whole experience when you eat - think grabbing a bite to eat on the run as opposed to a sit down meal - so it is with sex.  read more...



The Look of Love - Eye-gazing

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Sit facing each other. Cross-legged is ideal, or on straight-backed chairs if your knees aren’t so good. Be close enough that your knees are touching and you can hold hands.

Then simply gaze into each other’s eyes.

Play some luscious chilled music, and hold the gaze for one song. That’s about three minutes. read more...



Sensual Non-Monogamy

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, September 23, 2014

I consider myself sexually monogamous (or at least, monogamish, I like to think there’s a ‘sanity clause’ in any relationship I’m in), but sensually non-monogamous.

What I mean by that is that I keep my genitals to myself and my partner. For me that’s ‘sacred zone’ just for us. I have no desire to share that part of myself with anyone else.

But there’s so much more available to share and enjoy with others when you go beyond the genitals. As I say so often, sexuality is so much more than engaging our nether regions. read more...



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