I’ve asked my partner to spice things up by “going commando” next time we go out to dinner. She just laughs and never does it – although she’s usually fairly open minded. Is it wrong to ask her that?

I hope you’re not simply asking her “Hey honey, how about going commando tonight” – how unerotic is that! Sounds like you want to play one of those hunt and kill video games. The approach is so important. Whenever you want to push your boundaries and expand your erotic play, you need to set the scene and take it slowly. You’ll be a lot more successful with this type of approach: As you’re getting ready to go out stand back and admire her, then move up behind and kiss her on the neck, whispering into her ear how gorgeous she looks and just how much you’d like her to remove her knickers so you can fantasize about her luscious tush all through dinner…
Get the drift? Build the frisson so she’s aroused and confident and keen to fulfill your erotic fantasies!