I've got this thing where I'd really like to watch my girlfriend please herself. What does that say about me and is there anything I can do to encourage her? She's pretty reluctant even though we've been together for a few years now.

Watching your woman get herself off is a very arousing sight – there’s nothing odd about you there! Getting her to do it is another thing though. Many women feel uncomfortable exposing themselves in this way. Start by encouraging her to touch herself while you’re inside her, so that she gets used to doing it while you’re together, but when you’re not so focused on watching her. You can also instruct her to touch different parts of her body, such as her breasts, nipples, stomach, hips, while you touch her genitals. Gradually she’ll get more used to you watching her, until she’s comfortable with touching herself genitally while you watch.