My wife and I are 28 years old and have been married for a year and a half now. My wife's lost her sex drive in the last six months. Something seems to have disappeared. I still want sex, but I'm reluctant to make moves because I know she's not up for i

After the initial lusty phase of a relationship, women’s libido tends not to operate like men’s. You think about sex, up it bobs and voila, you’re in the mood. A women’s libido is not so immediate. Desire doesn’t ‘just happen’, particularly not if she’s watched three hours of murders and corpses on TV and you announce: “how about it love?”. That approach does not moisten the loins.

Give her time to transition from the pressures of the day. Help her clear up after dinner, then spend relaxed time together. Play some music and have a glass of wine while you chat, giving her a foot massage or rubbing her neck. If she’s open for more, move to a bedroom that’s sensual – luscious music, flickering candles, tell her she’s gorgeous and take your time kissing and touching until her desire does awake. It may take some time, but the result will be worth it!