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Why A Masculine Man Would Want A Choosy Woman

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, March 13, 2012

I received a passionate response from a man in relation to one of my blog post: “Feminine Receptivity and the Go-Getter Kind of Girl”:

The Etiquette of Observing Breasts

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, January 31, 2012

I was asked this question from a chap in America:

"Recently I asked the folks at "Dear Cupid" a question about the etiquette of when a man may permissibly glance at a woman's breasts. For some reason they found my question "inappropriate to publish." To me given the fact that heterosexual relationships start with a man and women visually interacting with one another that the question of when it is okay to glance at a woman's breasts seems extraordinarily fundamental. Many men don't seem to know that it isn't bad to look because hardly anybody tells them they can. So what is the deal and can't somebody write something on this?"

This was my reply:

The Pleasure of A Soft Cock

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, December 13, 2011

There is so much pressure on penises. The poor things are supposed to rise to attention on command, stay hard for hours, only ejaculate when desired - and if they can’t do that, then the sex is considered poor. 

 What’s wrong with a soft cock?

 Nothing, and there’s plenty of pleasure to be had with one:

The Sensual Man

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, November 01, 2011

Available as a podcast: download here! What is the number one thing that makes a man a great lover?

His sensuality.

Without sensuality, when a man makes love to his partner, there can be no real connection. Without that connection, the sex becomes uninteresting, even a turn-off for the woman, and the sex dies. read more...

Fire and Water: The Masculine and Feminine Sexual Energies

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, May 31, 2011

The masculine sexual energy is like fire: it comes on quickly, burns brightly and extinguishes quickly.

The feminine sexual energy is like water: it’s slow to heat up, but once it’s boiling it will boil and boil and boil and boil…

So if we divide sex into two phases, desire and response, then the masculine has more energy in the desire phase and the feminine has more energy in the response phase.

This is why men generally tend to have a stronger libido, and why women have a greater range and intensity of arousal and orgasmic response.

Men Need a Muse Not Just A Vagina

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, May 24, 2011

I know men intimately. It’s one of the blessings of my work. Hundreds of men have opened themselves up to me, baring their souls, telling me how they feel at the most basic, the most sensitive and the most intimate levels of their being.

One thing I have come to realise - men need a muse.

To a man, his beloved is so much more than just someone to have sex with. She is his inspiration, his reason for being, she is what gives him meaning and drive in life. When a man connects deeply with his woman, when he makes beautiful love with her, he feels all-powerful, as though he could conquer the world - and he does!

Make Every Stroke Count

Jacqueline Hellyer - Monday, March 14, 2011

A client of mine had attended my Blackbelt in the Bedroom seminar for men and said that afterwards he’d had the best sex ever. 
He also said:

“I applied everything you taught us. I made every stroke count. It was unbelievable!”

The Awesomeness of Men Who Are Present

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, October 12, 2010

At my Black Belt in the Bedroom seminars I get the participating men to stand in a circle and and simply breathe, circulating their sexual energy around their bodies. Each time it is, simply, stunning. The only way to describe it is to use a rather old-fashioned and religious term; it is a State of Grace. With every group, the peace and presence manifested by these men is magnificent. If only their women could be there to experience it.

I love to stand in the middle of the circle and feel that gorgeous masculine energy. When I have a female assistant there, I invite her to stand in the circle to feel it too. Every woman who has done this has been amazed at the sensation.

Experiences like this confirm my purpose in the world to enable people to connect with themselves and through that with their partners, and through that ultimately to connect with everything.

On behalf of the women of the world, thanks guys! You’re awesome!


Not-So-Secret Men's Business

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, October 05, 2010

I am bravely, perhaps foolhardedly, but definitely doggedly running a Blackbelt in the Bedroom seminar on Monday evening.

 Why do I say doggedly? Because men are so bloody hard to get to a workshop on sex! read more...

Three Things a Masculine Man Needs

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Three things a man needs to come into a positive masculinity:

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