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I love getting feedback from clients, workshop participants and readers of my newsletter and blog, as well as people who see me in the media. I'm sure it's partly an ego thing!
But it also shows that this work is touching people, improving the quality of their lives, and slowly but surely changing our society into one which values sexuality and promotes quality sex. One thing that people so often say is that I'm giving them "a whole new view of sex".
Scientific research shows we have three brains: there are complex and fully functional brains in our heart, our gut and our head. This concept has been known by the esoteric and spiritual systems for years, so I'm really excited that modern science is confirming this knowledge. read more...
Who needs apples? Ok, you may not be interested or able to have an orgasm a day, and that frequency is not necessary, but it is true that good quality, regular sex is good for our physical and mental health and overall sense of wellbeing. read more...
I don't believe so! I wouldn't be in this profession if I thought my role was to encourage people, especially women, to have 'good enough' sex. That doesn't seem to be the view of some of my colleagues though. read more...
I’m a working mother of three, so life gets pretty busy! When you live a life like mine, you have to focus on balance. I'm constantly struggling with my mad innate urges to completely overcommit and take on too much (well, it is all so interesting and so necessary!). I, like many women out there, may be a super woman, but I am not Superwoman, and I have limits. There has to be a balance. And that balance has to be crafted. read more...
30 million copies of 50 Shades of Grey sold and counting..... Leaving commentators bemused: why so popular?.
It's obviously not high literature, but then again, it's not trying to be, it’s just a good romance.
But 30 million copies…
… there’s got to be something special… read more...
I've been doing a lot of media interviews lately where the topic of erotic literature comes up, due to the current success of Fifty Shades of Grey. I'm asked whether it's good for people's sex lives.
Absolutely! I reply.
This is for three reasons: read more...
What is the difference between erotic and sleazy or sordid? What is the difference between when something is positive and life-enhancing sexually and when it’s not, when it detracts from life?
I once had a conversation with my 18-year old son pointing out that telling ribald jokes in front of his 10-year old sister is not good. “Oh yeah, but Mum, you’ve got dildos in your office,” he replied, implying: ”You’re not one to talk”. I pointed out that the work I do is not about dildos per se, it’s about the energy and the emotion behind its use. So you can take a dildo and turn it into something really smutty and disgusting, something that makes the users feel bad about themselves and sex in general, or you can use it a way which makes them feel good about themselves and sex. read more...
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- Finding the 'More' - the Spiritual Dimensions of Sex
- How to Stay In Love
- Expanding Your Sexual Play Pt 2: How
- Expanding Your Sexual Play Pt 1: What
- Simple Sex is Good Sex
- Solo Sex: Mindful Masturbation
- Own the Crone
- Porn Star versus Prude
- “When One is Pretending, the Whole Body Revolts”
- Non-Linear Love-Making: the Picnic Approach to Sex
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