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Chill Out in Your Sanctuary

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, April 26, 2011

We’ve been talking about rest and sleep as necessary prerequisites for good sex. Now we’ll talk about chilling out together.

I always recommend that couples find some time, preferably every day, where you can just hang out and chill together. It only needs to be 15 minutes over a cup of tea or glass of wine when the kids have gone to bed, or similar. You can give each other a foot massage - anything conducive to time to chat in an easy, relaxed way. 


When you’re in a good space like this it's also easier to raise the issue of whether you might move into some love-making that evening or not; and if you are open to the idea, what one or both of you might need to get there.


Clients have told me that this one small change to their relating – deciding that sex is no less sexy because it’s a little bit planned - has had a huge impact on their sense of connectedness and therefore on their sex lives. read more...



Communing

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, February 08, 2011


This is a great word that I like to use when talking to couples about how to relate to each other and get in the mood for love-making.

That word is “communing”.



The dictionary defines the verb “commune” as:

• To share one's intimate thoughts or feelings with someone or something;
• To feel in close spiritual contact with someone or something.



It’s a gentle, chilled-out word that makes you feel relaxed and connected. I take it to mean that act of sharing and feeling when two people hang-out together doing stuff that makes them feel good about each other...

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