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Inviting A Third (or fourth or more…) - the right way to play

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, June 16, 2015

The thought of sex with multiple partners can be deliciously arousing. The prospect of turning that fantasy into a reality though, can be fraught. read more...

Our Bodies Are the Best Sex Toy Ever

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, May 26, 2015

You can certainly spice up your relationship with sex toys - there are thousands on the market to choose from..  read more...

DIY Porn - It’s A Fun Way to Add Spice to Your Love Life

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Lights - camera - action! Starring in your own porn show can be a fun way to spice up your sex life. read more...

Don’t Fake It Till You Make It - ‘Cause You Won’t Make It

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, April 14, 2015

If you want to spice up your sex life, it’s got to be real. There’s no point faking it. That would be like putting fake spices into a curry - it might look good, but if it tastes terrible there’s no point. If you fake sexual pleasure you’re deceiving your partner and you’ll end up frustrated and resentful. read more...

Give Your Man Absolute Pleasure...Try Prostate Massage

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, April 07, 2015

Prostate massage can be great for a man - great orgasms, better sex. You have to go in through the bum hole though, so it’s not for everyone. But if you’re game, it can feel fantastic.

Now, you don’t want to go “barreling down to the anus” (to misquote Monty Python), he needs to be warmed up to anal touch. Make sure he’s good and relaxed, you’ve got music playing, soft lighting, whatever makes him (and you as the massager) feel comfortable.  read more...

Don't Spend a Fortune on Toys - There’s A Sex Store in Your Pantry!

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Adult shops these days can be classy, tasteful, staffed by friendly well-informed assistants, full of a huge range of products to titillate and pleasure. They’re great.

But you know what? You can find a whole heap of stuff in your own home that you can bring into the bedroom to augment your love play.

Come, let’s look around your house to see what goodies we can find… read more...

Can Fisting Be Fabulous?

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Of course, anything can be fabulous! Double entry with gerkins stuffed up your nose could be fabulous - if it’s something you genuinely desire, it’s consensual and practiced safely.

As I constantly repeat: it’s not what you, do it’s how you do it.

If you ever think you ‘should’ do something sexual, whether it’s to be cool, or because your partner wants you to, or because you think it’s what everyone else does, but you don’t really want to - then don’t do it. read more...

Mutual Pleasure Requires Mutual Responsibility - how to expand your sex play safely

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, February 17, 2015

 I don’t really like using a cheesy romance as a basis for sex education, but hey, with all the fuss about 50 Shades The Movie, here I go.

But before I do, let’s clarify a few things:

1. It’s a story not a documentary.

Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down - how to add restraint to your sex life

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, February 10, 2015

 Grab a tie, or a stocking, and wrap it around your partner’s wrists. Then kiss them.

There you go, that’s bondage.

Although in fact you don’t even need an implement of restraint, you can just tell your partner not to move, and if they agree and don’t, then that’s bondage too! read more...

The Sensual Dom(me)

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, December 16, 2014


Sensual, tantric play heightens pleasure and so can kinky play. Put the two together and you go places - to Sub-Space and Dom-Space.

Playing with dominance and submission is about playing with the yin and yang of sexuality. When done with extreme connection and respect it is a beautiful experience. read more...

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