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#115: Ten Reasons Why Married Women Have Affairs

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, February 24, 2015

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#111: 10 Tips For Your Vagina

Jacqueline Hellyer - Wednesday, January 21, 2015



A friend asked me recently what my Top Ten Tips for a vagina would be. “Good question!” I thought. So many women feel disconnected from their genitals, and don’t have a good feeling about them. We don’t even have a decent word for them, often using the word “vagina” to apply to the whole genital area. So here I use the word “vagina” to apply to just the vagina, and as to the whole of the genitals? Well, read on!

1.  Honor It. The female genitals are the source of life. Other than a small input by the man at the start, the whole process of creating life takes place in the female genitals. That would have to be the most awesome thing in the entire universe!

2.  Name It. For such an awesome part of the body, it’s incredible that we don’t have a decent name, other than “genitals”, which is a pretty ugly word. Even in casual talk there are not a lot of strong gorgeous names. We often refer to our “bits”, “down there”, “private parts” or “nether regions”. It’s hard to relate to an area of your body that you can’t even name! So give it a name: it’s my fanny or my quim, my yoni,... read more


#111: 10 Tips for Your Vagina

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, January 20, 2015

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#101: Make Love to Yourself

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, September 02, 2014

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#101: Make Love to Yourself - Mindful Masturbation for Women

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, September 02, 2014

 

Making love to yourself is a wonderful experience. It gets you in touch with your body, more confident in your sexuality, it makes you more orgasmic, floods your body with happy hormones, and generally makes you happier and healthier!

I call it self-pleasuring, which is a far more appealing and indulgent term than the clinical, and somehow ‘wrong’ sounding term of ‘masturbation’.

Solo sex is different to partnered sex. It’s not worse than partnered sex, or less than partnered sex - what you do when you can’t get the ‘real thing’ - it’s just different


It is still sex, at least the type of sex that I promote, that is, it’s about pleasure not just the quickest route to orgasm - so treat it like sex and actually make love to yourself.

First, set the scene. You want to be in a luscious environment, with gorgeous music, soft lighting, lots of pillows stacked behind you so that you’re reclining rather than flat on your back.

You might like to have a bath first to relax yourself - maybe ready some erotica as you bathe. Or read some erotica as preparation while you eat a few delectable... read more


#92: Q&A: Why Doesn’t Porn Do It for Me?

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, March 04, 2014



I’m often asked questions like this one I received through Women’s Health Magazine:

My boyfriend wants to watch porn with me, and I have nothing against porn, but I haven't found any that turns me on – the women tend to be all fake-tanned and fake-nailed, and the sex is so staged. Can you make any recommendations on porn that appeals to both men and women?

And my response to enquiries like this tends to be along the lines of:

Porn doesn't do it for everyone. Those close-ups of genitals, ham acting, no plot - for many people that's a "turn me off, baby"! While many people find porn to be a short-cut to rapid arousal, others find it short-circuits arousal and turns them cold.

If you're in the latter group, it's better to find your erotic turn-ons elsewhere: in books, movies, food, poetry, clothing, music - create experiences that really turn you on, from the inside out. Seek seduction, not sleaze; pleasure, not porn; sensuality not superficiality; fun, not fake.

If you and your boyfriend look for real connection and deep eroticism you’ll be enjoying yourselves, lost in sensation, way more than you ever could... read more



#92: Q&A: Why Doesn't Porn Do It For Me?

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, March 04, 2014

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#91: If Sex Hurts, Change What You're Doing

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, February 25, 2014

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#89: Trust Your Body

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, January 14, 2014

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#85: Advice from Japanese Grandmothers on How to be Beautiful

Jacqueline Hellyer - Tuesday, November 12, 2013

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