Regular 69 can be pretty challenging, receiving and giving focused pleasure at the same time - aargh!
And if you’re still stuck in the belief that genital stimulation has to lead to orgasm, it's even worse - how can you orgasm when you’re distracted with giving the pleasure, or vice versa??
I’m more an exponent of Languid 69.
You still get the benefit of focusing on each other’s lovely genitals, without such intense simultaneous stimulation.
So lie together in your standard 69 position: top to toe, heads and hands at the level of each other’s pelvises.
Then take it in turns to focus on your partner. One receives while the other gives delectable oral pleasure. The receiver gives most of their attention to the receiving, while cupping their hands over their partner’s genitals, or playing with them lightly. Then, with ease and grace, you swap roles, with the focused giver becoming the focused receiver and the light giver becoming the light receiver.
What’s so lovely about this approach to oral sex is that it is languid. There is no on-going or increasing intensity (although there might be moments or periods of fervour). The aim... read more