Transpersonal Sex Therapy, Relationship Coaching
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Hello, I’m Jacqueline Hellyer, one of Australia's foremost experts in sex and relationships.

Highly-qualified in scientific, therapeutic and esoteric sexuality, and with many thousands of hours experience working with private clients and groups, I offer in person and on-line services, information products and events.

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It All Starts With a Kiss…

Posted 01-Jul-2014 | Jacqueline Hellyer

Available as a podcast: download here!
Lips part, faces draw near, lips touch. 

Close your eyes and imagine this, feel it, fully present in your lips, in your tongue. 

Your lips are soft, testing, sensing. Your mouth is relaxed, your tongue gentle.

Gently, gently kiss. How much sensation is there in that gentleness? Your lips are alive, they are the predominant sense organ of the moment.

Feel how the subtlety creates so much strength of feeling, all though out your body.

Feel how that softness allows your body to awaken, how it allows you to sink in to the feeling of softening, opening, receiving, joining.

Feel how that connection through your lips atunes you to your partner.

Be aware, through your lips, of your own and your partner’s feeling. Allow yourself to submit to the flow of the kiss. Let your lips dance together, tease, explore.

Include the tongue if that feels right in the moment, soft, testing, always relaxed. Your tongue too, a sensory organ feeling and transmitting pleasure to the whole of your body.

Take your time. There is no rush, there is no sense of this leading anywhere, it is not a ‘preliminary’. It just is.

As the kiss ends and you draw apart, stay with the feeling in your body, feeling the pleasure, the yumminess that suffuses your being. Be aware of how your partner is feeling this too.

Be aware of where you want to go with this. Is the kiss complete in itself? Does it leave you yearning for more? If so, is your desire to continue with subtlety or with more passionate intensity?

Feel it and flow with it. Wherever it leads. There is no right or wrong, no ‘should’ just what is emerging in the moment between the two of you.



To deepen your capacity to be present and feel, book in book in to one of my Tantra Fusion Workshops or have Private Sex Therapy and /or Coaching.



Available as a podcast: download here!
Lips part, faces draw near, lips touch. 

Close your eyes and imagine this, feel it, fully present in your lips, in your tongue. 

Your lips are soft, testing, sensing. Your mouth is relaxed, your tongue gentle. more...

    

Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

Posted 24-Jun-2014 | Jacqueline Hellyer

Available as a podcast: download here!
How many people are in relationship limbo, not knowing whether they should stay in the relationship or leave it? I see them all the time, mentally adding up the positives and the negatives, weighing them up against each other, hoping to come to some logical decision about whether to stay or go.

Trying to weigh up the positives and the negatives as a means of deciding whether the relationship is good or not is never very effective. Some days it weighs in favour of one decision, some days another…

It doesn’t come down to whether the positives outweigh the negatives. It actually comes down to some simple, key points.

Mira Kirshenbaum outlines these in her brilliant book Too Good To Leave Too Bad To Stay (Plume, 1996), which I highly recommend if you’re in relationship limbo, or what she calls ‘relationship ambivalence’. By examining these key points, and answering yes or no to some simple questions, you’ll get a feel for whether you want to stay in your relationship and whether you want to do the work necessary to make it better.

Some of the key points include:

Does your partner respect you? And do you respect your partner?

Is there a power imbalance so your partner makes you feel humiliated? Or does s/he bombard you with obstacles so that you can’t get even your smallest needs met?

Have you given time for hurts to heal? Does your relationship have the capacity for forgiveness?

Has your partner breached a bottom line?

Is the relationship abusive?

Was it ever really good? If not, it probably never will be.

Are you both capable of change?

Do you actually like your partner, and does s/he actually like you?

Despite everything, have you still got more to give?

Your responses to questions like these will give you a greater insight into the decision you need to make than any amount of comparing the good and bad. As Ms Kirshenbaum points out, you can’t be like a lawyer piling up the evidence for and against, you need to be like a doctor making a diagnosis.

So, the take home message here is that if you’re in limbo unsure of whether to stay or go, focus on the few important issues rather than all the positives and negatives.

Once you’ve made your decision, stick to it and stop tormenting yourself with the constant weighing up of pros and cons. If you decide to stay, commit to that and making the changes needed (even if it’s simply letting go of stuff); and if you decide to go, pull the bandage off quickly, and go.


If you want to talk this out some more please book in for private sessions. A lot of women find attending my Luscious Woman Retreat a good space in which to make this important decision.


Available as a podcast: download here!
How many people are in relationship limbo, not knowing whether they should stay in the relationship or leave it? I see them all the time, mentally adding up the positives and the negatives, weighing them up against each other, hoping to come to some logical decision about whether to stay or go.

Trying to weigh up the positives and the negatives as a means of deciding whether the relationship is good or not is never very effective. Some days it weighs in favour of one decision, some days another…

It doesn’t come down to whether the positives outweigh the negatives. It actually comes down to some simple, key points. more...

    

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"You've shown me how to feel the way I've always wanted to. Thank-you for deliciously weaving my spirit and sexuality back together."

"In the short time since the Black Belt seminar, my partner has said that our sex has turned "180 degrees", and that you are a "miracle worker" !"

"I never expected the Luscious Woman Workshop to have such a dramatic change on how I view myself and how I now feel sexy, feminine and graceful. I've never said those words about myself before!"

"I feel an enormous sense of relief that we have a platform to start communicating about intimacy and sex in an open respectful and adult way."

"Jacqueline's workshops are fun, informative, sensual, and in many ways deeply profound." 

"You are inspirational in Australia and beyond. There are an indefinable number of people whose lives have been changed as a result of your Intelligence, Study, Courage and Insight to say it how it is."

"A huge thank you with all my heart for the unique and beautiful experience that you created for all of us on the weekend. It was such a magnificent experience and I am amazed at how much the Luscious Woman weekend boosted my confidence, I feel fantastic. What you give to others is such a beautiful gift you’re an inspiration to everyone around you".

"You are a relationship genius!"

"A massive thank you for all your guidance and wisdom. Your sex therapy played a very significant role in changing our lives forever."

"You've changed the whole way I look at sex, now I feel so much more positive and free and empowered!"

"How can I thank you? You have helped me move to a place where I not only feel comfortable with my body, but feel it's pretty damn sexy and any man who gets to explore and share it is lucky. Most importantly I feel good about myself. I've had my eyes opened to all sorts of possibilities..."

"I can honestly say that I'd be separated and on my way to divorce if not for you slapping me into shape."

"Jacqueline is a transformative figure. Her workshops, writings and podcasts have changed the way I think and behave, from the bedroom to the boardroom. (Ever breathed through your cock while giving a presentation? You should try it.) Put aside your fears that tantra is hippy-dippy, and put aside your fears about exploring sexuality. There's much to learn, many myths to be dispelled, much shame to be exorcised, and much growth to be had... and at the end of the day you'll leave a giant smile on your partner's face."

"Jacqueline is an inspiration!"

"When we started seeing you we were newly-weds heading for divorce... after our sessions with you we are happier and more in love (and lust) than ever before!"

"The empowerment you provide people with through your sex therapy and tantra workshops is inspirational, life changing and the beauty of it is that you don't give them power, you don't even create it, it just simply manifests itself through the opportunities you so strategically present."

"The course helped us remember the importance of completely "being" with each other - not just physically, but on a much deeper level. We will take this into the bedroom and practice the art of real love-making, not just sex!"

"We loved every minute of Luscious Lovers. It was such a beautiful experience to be surrounded by so much love. Thank you for filling up our love bank!"

"I have never been happier!!! You taught me a lot and I'm still practicing so thanks!"

"Before meeting Jacqueline we were “fumbling around in the dark”, I couldn’t go the distance and this left my beloved underwhelmed. We were caught in the daily grind, were sexually frustrated and wanting a more satisfying experience. Since Jacqueline’s sex coaching our lovemaking has become light-hearted, our lives filled with romance, dating, petting, smooches. When we make love the time is intimate, fun, erotic, orgasmic and/or all of the above. We’ve never been happier, whole or as complete – and can’t thank you enough."

"I would like to deeply thank you for all your support and sharing your wisdom with me. Since our first sex therapy session I have learned to orgasm and break my limiting belief that I was a non orgasmic women for 27 years! I will never forget the beautiful gift that you have given me, my gratitude for your kindness will always be something I reflect on for the rest of my life."

"My love life has so shifted to another level….you showed me in an amazing way, how I was able to tap into a field of energy that I didn’t realize existed when it comes to lovemaking and intimacy which shifts the whole experience to another level."

“I loved it - my love life has SOOO shifted to another level….you showed me in an amazing way, how I was able to tap into a field of energy that I didn’t realize existed when it comes to lovemaking and intimacy which shifts the whole experience to another level. I am now better able to remain focused and present to the whole experience."



"What have you done to my wife!! I'm loving it. I think I am your new best friend! I am telling everyone who cares to listen about your Tantra workshops. "