Sex Therapist, Relationship Coach & Tantra Teacher

Hello, I'm Jacqueline Hellyer. I'm one of Australia's foremost experts in positive sex, sexuality and relationships. In my role as sex coach, sex therapist and tantra expert, I offer expert support around sex, love and intimacy.

My knowledge and experience is as broad as it gets, and I share it in an open, practical and inspiring way. My effective and liberating approach allows you to:

  • Look at your issues comfortably and openly
  • Increase knowledge and confidence
  • Find greater sexual, relationship and personal fulfillment.

I offer:

  • Sex therapy and relationship coaching in Sydney (and via skype) for individuals and couples;
  • Tantra Fusion workshops, seminars and retreats; and
  • Sex and relationship advice through my books, videos, pocketbooks, Q&As and media appearances.

Your sexuality can be a powerful force for good in your life - if you embrace it, enhance it and direct it. Let me help you become confident, creative and connected... Then watch miracles manifest in your life!

Private Sessions:

Sex therapy, relationship coaching and more.

Tantra Workshops:

Sexual empowerment workshops and events.

Jacqueline's Shop:

Pocketbooks, videos, books and play products.

Latest news

  • Couples Tantra Retreat in Vietnam more...
  • Blackbelt in the Bedroom Men's Seminar more...
  • Luscious & Tantric Lovers Workshops  more...
  • Sex Secrets for Busy People as E-Book! more...
  • What is Tantra? - read my pocketbook! more...

On my blog...

Penises Love A Soft Touch

Posted 27-Dec-2011

Penises love a woman’s softness. Why then, do so many women feel they need to stimulate a man so hard?

A woman is not a wanking machine, nor is she a vacuum cleaner. Yet so many women act like this in bed with a man.

If he really wants the intensity of a man from his partner, then tell him to explore his bisexual side! Seriously - bisexual men tell me that the pleasure of being with a man is the intensity and hardness of the encounter.

The problem is that so many men have never even had their penises touched tenderly and softly.

Because men tend to be pretty intense when masturbating, they think that’s the only way to pleasure their penis, and so expect the same from their female partner. But once a man has experienced the sensation of tender stimulation of his penis (given with true erotic desire and connection), well, he won’t turn back. It’s a wonderful sensation.

Which is not to say that there aren’t times when you won’t want to make love with vigour and enthusiasm. Most of the time however, be a woman! Hold and caress and stroke your man’s penis with intense softness and passionate tenderness. He’ll love it!

(And never again will you get RSI of the forearm, aching neck or sore cheeks…)

To find out more about loving a man as a woman, come along to my Luscious Woman workshop. Or book in for a private session.

Penises love a woman’s softness. Why then, do so many women feel they need to stimulate a man so hard?

A woman is not a wanking machine, nor is she a vacuum cleaner. Yet so many women act like this in bed with a man.

If he really wants the intensity of a man from his partner, then tell him to explore his bisexual side! Seriously - bisexual men tell me that the pleasure of being with a man is the intensity and hardness of the encounter.

The problem is that so many men have never even had their penises touched tenderly and softly.  more...

Intercourse as Foreplay

Posted 20-Dec-2011

Foreplay is generally seen as what you do before you get to intercourse, to prepare yourselves (especially the woman) to be ready to receive ‘penetration’ by the man. Intercourse is seen as a vigorous activity consisting of the man thrusting into the woman, or less frequently, the woman bouncing around on the man.

The problem with this limited view is that it assumes:
1) that intercourse is the ‘main event’ of sex and that other activities simply lead-up to that ‘main event’;
2) that intercourse is such a vigorous activity that plenty of preparation is required.

But let’s look at this differently. Let’s say that:
1) intercourse isn’t the main event, that it’s just one of many elements of sex and love-making;
2) intercourse doesn’t have to be vigorous and requiring lots of preparation;
3) intercourse can in essence be part of the foreplay.

Now that’s a different view!

If you’ve been reading all my posts lately, you’ll notice that I’ve been focusing on sensuality and exploring the ‘valleys’ of sex rather than the ‘peaks’, and particularly on softening and making the vagina more receptive, and even making love with a soft cock.

With this approach the lines between foreplay and sex blur and it all becomes part of a flow of love-making that changes every time and can last from moments to hours.

Gentle intercourse can start the whole sexual encounter, even without any movement at all. Having your genitals connected while gazing into each other’s eyes, or kissing, or simply lying there enjoying the feeling of genital connection - is a type of foreplay. That could be enough in itself, or it might lead on to more vigorous intercourse, or more vigorous oral or manual, or bring in toys, lie around in 69 for ages, get up and dance, chat, have a cup of tea, and then do it all again… Whatever! Create something wonderful and new every time!

Learn more at one of my Tantra Fusion Workshops, or come in for a private session Sex Coaching and Sex Therapy.

Foreplay is generally seen as what you do before you get to intercourse, to prepare yourselves (especially the woman) to be ready to receive ‘penetration’ by the man. Intercourse is seen as a vigorous activity consisting of the man thrusting into the woman, or less frequently, the woman bouncing around on the man.

The problem with this limited view is that it assumes:
1) that intercourse is the ‘main event’ of sex and that other activities simply lead-up to that ‘main event’;
2) that intercourse is such a vigorous activity that plenty of preparation is required.

But let’s look at this differently. Let’s say that:
1) intercourse isn’t the main event, that it’s just one of many elements of sex and love-making;
2) intercourse doesn’t have to be vigorous and requiring lots of preparation;
3) intercourse can in essence be part of the foreplay.

Now that’s a different view! more...

The Pleasure of A Soft Cock

Posted 13-Dec-2011

There is so much pressure on penises. The poor things are supposed to rise to attention on command, stay hard for hours, only ejaculate when desired - and if they can’t do that, then the sex is considered poor.

What’s wrong with a soft cock?? There’s plenty of pleasure to be had with one:
- It’s lovely and soft and malleable.
- It feels good for the man to have his soft cock handled.
- It’s easy for the woman to play with a soft cock with her hands or mouth.
- Intercourse can feel better with a softer cock, particularly anal.
- You can even have sex with a completely soft cock - it’s part of the gentle approach I’ve been talking about, where you simply join genitals, do nothing, and notice the subtle ecstatic sensations that arise.

If the woman wants something hard and phallic inside and there’s no erection on hand to satisfy, well then, use your hands! Talented digital stimulation of the vagina is a wonderful thing. Or use toys - dextrous use of dildos and vibrators is a similarly excellent experience. Or check out the pantry and grab a carrot!

I was on radio recently and a lovely man called up to say ever since he became impotent due to a heart condition, he and his wife had been having better sex than ever as he’d become so skilful with his hands!

Really, the only people who benefit from our obsession with the hard erection are the drug companies and porn companies. They make men feel inadequate without the massive phallus, and women too have an expectation that if it’s not hard it’s not on.

Such a shame. The erection, like quality love-making, will ebb and flow. As your love-making becomes more fluid and responsive, you’ll easily flow with the state of the penis - if it’s hard, go for the shag, if it’s not, go for the myriad other pleasures that don’t require a rock hard cock.

To learn more about a more fluid approach to sex and love-making I recommend you attend my Tantra Fusion workshops.

  
Or book in for private Tantra instruction and sex therapy


There is so much pressure on penises. The poor things are supposed to rise to attention on command, stay hard for hours, only ejaculate when desired - and if they can’t do that, then the sex is considered poor.

What’s wrong with a soft cock?? There’s plenty of pleasure to be had with one:
- It’s lovely and soft and malleable.
- It feels good for the man to have his soft cock handled.
- It’s easy for the woman to play with a soft cock with her hands or mouth.
- Intercourse can feel better with a softer cock, particularly anal.
- You can even have sex with a completely soft cock - it’s part of the gentle approach I’ve been talking about, where you simply join genitals, do nothing, and notice the subtle ecstatic sensations that arise. more...

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TESTIMONIALS

"A huge thank you with all my heart for the unique and beautiful experience that you created for all of us on the weekend. It was such a magnificent experience and I am amazed at how much the Luscious Woman weekend boosted my confidence, I feel fantastic. What you give to others is such a beautiful gift you’re an inspiration to everyone around you".

"A massive thank you for all your guidance and wisdom. Your sex therapy played a very significant role in changing our lives forever."

"A wonderful authentic experience"

"Absolutely amazing Luscious Woman workshop, thank-you sooooooo much!"

"Before meeting Jacqueline we were “fumbling around in the dark”, I couldn’t go the distance and this left my beloved underwhelmed. We were caught in the daily grind, were sexually frustrated and wanting a more satisfying experience. Since Jacqueline’s sex coaching our lovemaking has become light-hearted, our lives filled with romance, dating, petting, smooches. When we make love the time is intimate, fun, erotic, orgasmic and/or all of the above. We’ve never been happier, whole or as complete – and can’t thank you enough."

"Fabulous"

"From me a huge hug and big big thank you for the wonderful content, presentation at Luscious Lovers, and most of all the love you shared with us."


"Great to get insights into how a woman is thinking and feeling during sex."

"I applied everything you taught at Blackbelt and had the most intense sex ever!"

"I can honestly say that I'd be separated and on my way to divorce if not for you slapping me into shape."

"I contacted Jacqueline with the dread of having sex and not really liking my "bits". I am proud to say that with her sex therapy, today I now initiate sex and am way less shy to share my "bits" with my partner. "

"I didn't know what I didn't know!" 

"I feel entirely transformed. It's not new in the doing, but the sense of self residing within has changed - and that has changed everything."

"I feel privileged to have shared your wisdom."

"I had no idea someone like you existed, I'm so glad you do and that I found you!"

"I have done Jacqueline's Blackbelt in the Bedroom course twice now, and I may go back for a third. Its like they say practise makes perfect, and this is one practise I really really really enjoy!!! "

"I have realised so much about my self and my sexuality, your Luscious Woman workshop has changed the way I see sex."

"I just wanted to say a quick thank you. My girlfriend is absolutely in raptures because of what I can do to make her feel almost an inch towards heaven. A lot of it has been your wise words and your philosophy. The main thing that you said, was its not the pursuit of the orgasm but the enjoyment of the whole journey, and I have made that my own now. Thank you again, you have made be able to give her everything that she richly deserves in the bedroom."

"I just wanted to thank you for all your coaching in the past. I am now living life to the fullest and loving every minute of it"

"I learned so much at Luscious Woman and feel better about many things - more empowered and definitely more luscious."

"I loved my time at the Luscious Lovers workshop - truly amazing."

“I loved Tantric Lovers - my love life has SOOO shifted to another level….you showed me in an amazing way, how I was able to tap into a field of energy that I didn’t realize existed when it comes to lovemaking and intimacy which shifts the whole experience to another level. I am now better able to remain focused and present to the whole experience."



"I loved the experiential nature of Luscious Lovers - it was brilliant and acted as a stimulus to reconnecting."

"I loved the Luscious Woman weekend thank you so much for putting on such a professional and tasteful workshop."

"I loved your humour and relaxed facilitation. It really disarmed everyone in a good way!"

"I often reflect on what a wonderful person you are and what a beautiful gift you share with others. I love your passion for helping others and one day I hope I gain enough wisdom to help others in your footsteps. I will continually look out for others in need and highly recommend you where ever I go, as I think this world needs so many more amazing people like yourself to uplift and brighten the lives of those in need."

"I really enjoyed your Luscious Woman workshop, it was a great experience. You have a special gift :-)"

"At Blackbelt I really got what it means to come into my masculine sexual energy, with strength and confidence and no macho or aggression. Feels great! (And my wife is beaming!)"


"By attending your Luscious Woman workshop I was able to see women from a much more positive light, we're so gorgeous and sexy! I'll never be so critical about myself or other women again. What a relief!"

"I wish I could do the Luscious Woman weekend every month!"

"I would like to deeply thank you for all your support and sharing your wisdom with me. Since our first sex therapy session I have learned to orgasm and break my limiting belief that I was a non orgasmic women for 27 years! I will never forget the beautiful gift that you have given me, my gratitude for your kindness will always be something I reflect on for the rest of my life."

"I would love to do this every day!"

"In the couple of years since we saw you I realise that my wife has never rejected me. That's a testament to your skill as a sex therapist!"

"Inspired, oohhh yeah, what wonderful timing for us just the injection we both needed."

"Inspiring!"

"It was ALL great for igniting the inner goddess!!! I've been on a flow ever since the Luscious Woman weekend!!!"

"It was great to hang out with such cool guys at Blackbelt in the Bedroom, no jocks or dickheads."

"It was so good to connect with other women at Luscious Woman and be open about our sexuality. It was reassuring to know that everyone has issues, timid ones like me and the sexually adventurous."

"It was so good to take time out to reconnect."

"It was such a beautiful experience to be surrounded by so much love. Thank you for filling up our love bank!"

"I've done Blackbelt in the Bedroom twice it's so good. There's nowhere else you can get this quality of information explained clearly and boldly. It's made a huge difference to my life."

"I've never felt so comfortable with someone so confronting!"

"Jacqueline has done it again! What a way to reconnect for Valentine's Day. I'm so glad that we invested our money in Tantric Lovers, rather than chocolates and roses! The course helped us remember the importance of completely "being" with each other - not just physically, but on a much deeper level. We will take this into the bedroom and practice the art of real love-making, not just sex!"

"Jacqueline is an inspiration!"

"Jacqueline's workshops are fun, informative, sensual, and in many ways deeply profound." 

"Just wanted to let you know that we enjoyed Luscious Lovers last Sunday immensely. Happy to say that we really connected that day and had some of the most amazing sex when we got home!!!!
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"Loved the practical demo, thanks for being so bold."

"Luscious Lovers was so good we're back to do it a second time!"

"Luscious Woman was so useful and very much applies to the modern lush woman who wants to feel and be even more empowered!"

"My husband says he's so pleased I made him attend Luscious Lovers. Since Saturday we have noticed a real shift in our energies towards each other almost like switching from AM to FM radio, the difference is that noticeable."

"My love life has so shifted to another level….you showed me in an amazing way, how I was able to tap into a field of energy that I didn’t realize existed when it comes to lovemaking and intimacy which shifts the whole experience to another level."

"My partner and I feel closer since the Luscious Lovers workshop. Before this my partner said he felt a lot of pressure to live up to a macho male image, but when he saw how much other men were willing to give the gentle tantric caressing to their partners, he's started doing this at home. For me, this workshop has given me the courage to experiment, I can bring my fantasies to life instead of keeping them only in my mind."


"My partner said within 24 hours: "that Luscious Woman course you did was well worth every cent you paid for it!"

"No-one felt intimidated - it was relaxing and natural to partake in the activities."

"Omigawd thank you so much... We had the most amazing 'homework' experience after our sex coaching session!"

"Provided a new freedom"

"Really got a lot out of it and learned a lot"

"Really got a lot out of Luscious Woman and learned a lot"

"So good to get practical information that's solid, real and not at all sleazy."

"Such beautiful people - it was a real joy!"

"Thank you for such a unique and positive experience. It's very refreshing to interact and see so many couples still so deeply in love after so many years. Today society puts too much focus on divorce and negativity and not enough time on teaching couples the amazing re-connecting techniques that we learnt in your wonderful workshops. We loved every minute of our Tantric Lovers experience. It was such a beautiful experience to be surrounded by so much love. Thank you for filling up our love bank!"

"Thank- you so much for creating such an amazing, truly luscious weekend where a woman can really explore herself and her hidden potential. I'm still glowing from the experience and whenever I think about it, I get a little cheeky smile. I've gone from feeling somewhat inhibited to warmly embracing my sexual self and its expression."

"Thank you so much for all your help and inspiration over the last five months....don't think we would have made it this far without you!!!"

"Thank you very much for running the Tantric Lovers workshop. It was fabulous! It was a great day spent expressing and learning to express even deeper our love for each other. It has had a lovely positive effect on our relationship, and this boosted love has extended out to all other relationships in my life. It’s brought a spark to my life for ‘communion’. And with the basket of golden-egg goodies (exercises) we received on the day, I feel resourced-up to explore what was previously unknown and a little intimidating."

"Thanks again for your brilliant life-changing support of my wife and I."

"Thanks for an inspirational and informative session
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"Thanks for last week's Blackbelt session, I certainly took a lot away from it."

"Thanks for the inspiration!"

"Thanks Jacqueline for Blackbelt in the Bedroom last night, an absolutely amazing course."

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Thanks Jacqueline, we both had an extraordinary day

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"Thanks Jacqueline, we both had an extraordinary day."

"Thank you for a wonderful day at Tantric Lovers. We certainly both found it enjoyable, beneficial and more! It was the breakthrough we’ve been searching for."

"Thank you for a wonderful day at Tantric Lovers. We certainly both found it enjoyable, beneficial and more! It was the breakthrough we’ve been searching for."

"Thank-you for an awesome day, it was perfect in every way."


"Thank you so much for your professionalism, passion and dedication – your honesty and integrity shine."

"Thank-you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX U R wonderful"

"The Blackbelt workshop felt great and I was blown away by how brave you are to do this kind of thing with a room full of strange men and how gorgeous the energy around you is."

"The coaching has been great, I feel privileged to have shared your wisdom."

"The course helped us remember the importance of completely "being" with each other - not just physically, but on a much deeper level. We will take this into the bedroom and practice the art of real love-making, not just sex!"

"The Luscious Woman course was AMAZING and wonderful. So informative, liberating and empowering."

"The empowerment you provide people with through your sex therapy and tantra workshops is inspirational, life changing and the beauty of it is that you don't give them power, you don't even create it, it just simply manifests itself through the opportunities you so strategically present."

"The Luscious Woman weekend was great for me, I think working on the solution instead of the problem has taken me further forward then anything else I have tried. I am looking at making love in a whole different way."

"Blackbelt in the Bedroom was the most amazingly useful workshop I have ever done!"

"The re-connecting techniques we've learned in your couples workshops are amazing."

"The Tantric Lovers course helped us remember the importance of completely "being" with each other - not just physically, but on a much deeper level. We will take this into the bedroom and practice the art of real love-making, not just sex!"

"The Tantric Lovers workshop opened us up more to the joys of exploring our connection and ourselves from an ‘energetic’ point of view, and the flow on from that and the gorgeous day we spent with you has been profound, meaningful and self sustaining for us."

"The world is a clearer place now, things are a lot lighter!"

"Things have improved dramatically via the techniques learned through our sex therapy sessions."

"Useful, loving information."

"We have noticed a real shift in our energies towards each other almost like switching from AM to FM radio, the difference is that noticeable."

"We really enjoyed the Luscious Lovers workshop, so much so that we raced home afterwards and got it on! Grrrrrrrrr to say the least – Lol."


"We really love coming to see you, as you offer us such support and have made a huge difference to our lives."

"We used to fight constantly about sex, I never thought we'd find a way out. Then we found you and with your sex therapy that's all changed. You're awesome!"

"We've been having a lovely increase in intimacy and fun and insight since doing your two fantastic workshops, Luscious Lovers and Tantric Lovers."

"We've just spent a wonderful weekend workshopping with Jacqueline. Her workshops are fun, informative, sensual, and in many ways deeply profound - the weekend brought us closer in ways we could never have imagined. Thank-you for filling up our love bank!"

"What a super girly treat!"

"What have you done to my wife!! I'm loving it. I think I am your new best friend! I am telling everyone who cares to listen about your Tantra Fusion workshops. "

"What you give to others is such a beautiful gift you’re an inspiration to everyone around you".

"Working on the solution instead of the problem has taken me further forward then anything else I have tried."

“WOW! THANK YOU for making the day really special for us and highlighting some of the simple things we can do as Luscious Lovers."


"You have a way of opening me up and reading me like a book. I've taken a tremendous amount away from our sex therapy sessions."

"You saved our marriage. Thank-you!"

"You truly have a gift Jacqueline!"

"Your sex coaching helped save me from a life so ordinary, I'm forever grateful."

"Your Tantra Fusion workshops are fundamental to the health and sustainability of all relationships, regardless. In this faster than ever paced world, over stimulated and titillated, and where choice and everything-can-be-had as a retail experience is omnipresent, your guidance is like a light through the darkness..."

"Your workshops are amazing"

"You're the most confronting person I've ever felt so comfortable with!"

"You've changed the whole way I look at sex, now I feel so much more positive and free and empowered!"

"You've filled  a lot of gaps in my knowledge with your sex coaching."

"You've shown me how to feel the way I've always wanted to. Thank-you for deliciously weaving my spirit and sexuality back together."

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