My wife of 20 years and brought a vibrator 6 years ago and it’s slowly taken over. We use it for foreplay and then to complete the act. Sometimes my wife will allow me to enter her after she is. The device is having a psychological affect as I have troubl

You are needed.  You are so much more than a penis. Your wife loves you for your whole body, your mind, your touch, your feel, the depths of your eyes, the sweetness of your lips…(get the drift?). Please don’t confuse making love with achieving an orgasm. Orgasms are a lovely outcome of sex, they’re not the point of sex. The point of sex is to unite with your beloved and share a deeply intimate and pleasurable experience. Your wife can’t do that with just a vibrator. She needs you. So please don’t get hung up on her using the vibrator. It’s a piece of plastic, you're a flesh and blood man. So be a man and be creative, introduce other activities and don’t see a toy as competition!