Where science meets soul in the art of loving

Jacqueline Hellyer is a world-renowned sex therapist, sexologist and relationship counsellor based in Sydney, Australia, helping individuals and couples worldwide create more conscious, connected, and erotically alive relationships.

As a pioneer of Relational Sexology, Jacqueline blends modern science with timeless wisdom to bring a fresh, holistic understanding of love, sex and intimacy. Her work combines psychology, neuroscience and somatic awareness with spiritual insight - guiding people beyond performance or problem-solving and into genuine connection and eroticaliveness.

With warmth, intelligence,and a touch of playful humanity, she has become one of Australia’s most trusted voices in the field, known for making even the most delicate topics feel approachable, hopeful and deeply empowering.


Pioneering Relational Sexology

As a Relational Sexologist, Jacqueline brings together the fields of psychosexual therapy, relationship counselling, and transpersonal psychology into a single, integrated approach: Relational Sexology.

At its heart, Relational Sexology recognises that sexuality and relating are inseparable. Whether a client seeks help with desire, communication, performance, or emotional intimacy, Jacqueline’s work explores how love, pleasure, and consciousness intertwine. It’s not just about fixing problems; it’s about cultivating the conditions for connection, safety, and erotic aliveness to flourish.

This unique fusion of science, psychology and spirituality has made Jacqueline a trusted authority and teacher in the art and science of intimacy.

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Professional Background & Achievements

With over 20 years of clinical experience, 10,000+ hours of client sessions, and 3,000+ hours leading workshops and retreats, Jacqueline’s work spans the full spectrum from the scientific to the sacred, the embodied to the intellectual.

She is the Founder and Principal Therapist of The LoveLife Clinic, where she and her team support clients through psychosexual therapy and relationship counselling in Sydney and online. She is also the creator of the Couples Intimacy Masterclass, a seven-module online program that helps couples everywhere reignite connection and intimacy from home.

Jacqueline leads Couples Retreats in the Blue Mountains near Sydney, Australia and Bali, transformative experiences that blend deep relational learning with embodied practice and sensual renewal.

A published author of three books, Jacqueline is also a sought-after speaker and media expert, regularly featured across national and international outlets including ABC, Channel 7, SBS, The Sydney Morning Herald, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, and Body+Soul.

She co-hosts the popular cross-generational podcast My Mum’s a Sex Therapist with her daughter Claudia and shares ongoing insights through her LoveLife Blog & Podcast, featuring over 360 articles and podcast episodes.


Qualifications & Training

Jacqueline holds two Master’s degrees: one in Sexual Health and another in Consciousness, Spirituality and Transpersonal Psychology, alongside degrees in Biochemistry, Human Sciences, and Literature.

She is an accredited Psychosexual Therapist with the Society of Australian Sexologists (SAS), one of only a handful in Australia at this level, as well as a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with the International Coach Federation (ICF) and is trained in the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT).

Her professional training also extends into mindfulness, Tantra, Taoism and embodied practice, allowing her to bridge ancient wisdom with contemporary science.


The Scope of Jacqueline’s Work

All of Jacqueline’s offerings are expressions of her larger mission: to help people live, love and connect more deeply. Her work spans:


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A Personal Philosophy

After decades exploring the science and spirit of human connection, Jacqueline has come to see that our sexuality isn’t separate from our humanity, it’s the pulse of it.

She believes that when we approach love and intimacy with awareness, curiosity and courage, we not only transform our relationships, we awaken our deepest vitality and joy in living.

This is Relational Sexology in action: helping people feel at home in themselves, connected to each other, and fully alive in love.

TESTIMONIALS

Sometimes the love comes back as praise... Here I humbly present some of what people have said about me.

Note: Given the nature of my work and to protect people’s privacy, I’m not giving names - please trust me that these are all authentic!
We really love coming to see you, as you offer us such support and have made a huge difference to our lives.
"We really did enjoy the time in Bali and everything that the experience has opened up for us."
You’ve really helped me tap into something wonderful and powerful. I’ve discovered where I was letting myself down and have been enjoying 'filling in the blanks’.
This weekend has been so much more than we expected. Solidifying in a way we didn’t anticipate. It has opened our eyes to even more possibilities.
Jacqueline, you are so extraordinarily professional. I’ve done a lot of courses in this area and yours are so far above the rest in terms of content and presentation.
"I have to tell you that this experience has been life changing for me, and your wonderful loving work in helping us let go and come into ourselves made this life change such a warm comfortable natural process, that I can hardly remember what it was like before.”
I feel far more comfortable with myself and have a willingness to explore and grow in this rather new area of my life - how exciting.
Jacqueline, you are so extraordinarily professional. I’ve done a lot of courses in this area and yours are so far above the rest in terms of content and presentation.
Jacqueline is an inspiration!
You have such a fabulous gift for taking all the awkwardness out of sexuality and turning it into such a lovely and beautiful thing to embrace.
The Tantric Lounge has surpassed any expectations I had of attending such an event and I find myself feeling exhilarated from the experience to a whole new degree after each session.
The program was a lot different than I expected, I feel like I was almost tricked into being taught exactly what I really needed to know! I thought I'd learn all these new sex tricks, positions, etc that would blow my partner away and have her coming back and begging for more haha, but that was really not the focus of this program and also not really what I needed to hear and frankly shows my initial misunderstanding of sexuality to begin with. Your program was SO much more than that, so refreshingly educational to me at 34 years of age. To say your course is worth every penny is truly an understatement
I enjoyed doing this course immensely. The content is spot on and you rightly focus on the 'being' rather than the 'doing'.
I felt so useless and alone after I had my baby, and forcing myself to have sex with my husband made it worse. This book has helped me see in little ways how I can enjoy being a mother and a wife - which means I can enjoy being me! Thank-you.
Thank you for your warm vibrant energy, enthusiasm and passion. You've given a recently fatigued man the tools to recover his mojo.
‘The couples retreat is something every couple should do if they can. The course is refreshing, inspiring and gave our relationship a fun tool set to set us up for a joyful life together. It’s not just about sex (though that stuff was great), it debunks myths and starts a conversation that changed our relationship - definitely for the better. Jacqueline has a gift to make everyone feel comfortable. Don’t wait until there is a ‘problem’ - all relationships can be improved. Would recommend to all couples!’
Thank you for teaching me how to treat my wife (with numerous chronic illnesses) in a spirit of compassion while opening up a multitude of possibilities for both of us to experience giving and receiving.
Taking Black Belt completely revolutionized my thinking about sex and has had a long lasting positive influence on my sex life.
"The opening up to my own sexuality and what it means for us as a couple has been way beyond my expectations. I’ve felt safe and loved the sense of playfulness and the choices we’ve had whether or how to participate. I go away hugely enriched.”
Hol-ee f@ck you can write, Bravo!!! ;) I've been reading your things for years, but the Goddesses are tying it all together so exquisitely. Thank-you, and Wow!
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"I'm so happy with ME, where I am and where we are as a couple. This is where I've been trying to get for so long and now I'm here! Thanks - you're the best!"

"We really love coming to see you, as you offer us such support and have made a huge difference to our lives."

"My sessions with Jacqueline were like a great conversation with a very wise sister/friend. She helped me through the end of my 25 year marriage with compassion and insight, giving me perspective, coping skills and a gentle push where required. I’m so grateful to have had her wise counsel."

"This book has changed our lives. It’s all good practical common-sense - and it works!"

"I feel an enormous sense of relief that we have a platform to communicate about intimacy and sex in an open respectful and adult way."

"We used to fight constantly about sex, I never thought we'd find a way out. Then we found you and that's all changed. You're awesome!"

"Sex was just off the agenda and we’d lost connection. We couldn’t recommend this book more. It really will help"

"It’s been so good to find a book that tells us how to look after ourselves - not only how to look after the baby."

"You've changed the whole way I look at sex, now I feel so much more positive and free and empowered!"

"Seeing Jacqueline has been by far one of the best decisions we have made. Before seeking her help I was very sad about our situation. I am so happy to say that as a direct result of her thoughtful guidance we are in such a different and better place in our sex life."

"You have such a fabulous gift for taking all the awkwardness out of sexuality and turning it into such a lovely and beautiful thing to embrace. "

"It’s made us realise how important it is to always be there for each other, to prioritise us, even though it’s so easy to be distracted."

"Before meeting Jacqueline we were fumbling around in the dark, I couldn’t go the distance and this left my beloved underwhelmed. We were caught in the daily grind, were sexually frustrated and wanting a more satisfying experience. Since Jacqueline’s sex coaching our lovemaking has become light-hearted, our lives filled with romance, dating, petting, smooches. When we make love the time is intimate, fun, erotic, orgasmic and/or all of the above. We’ve never been happier, whole or as complete – and can’t thank you enough."

"I wish we’d had this book when our first bub was born. But better late than never, it’s been a great help second time around!"

"Thank-you for so deliciously weaving my sexually and spiritually together again, I now feel the way I’ve always wanted and known I could feel."

"I never thought I’d lose my libido - but I did! Who’d have thought one little baby could be so exhausting! Your book made so much sense - it explained why I was feeling this way, why my partner was feeling this way, and what we could do about it."

"A massive thank you for all your guidance and wisdom. Your sex therapy played a very significant role in changing our lives forever."

"You’re the first of many counsellors who really feels comfortable and is coming from a practical, understandable place. You've helped us find the key and it's really quite simple."

"We weren’t in a very good place. Reading Jacqueline’s book together made the world of difference and we’re stronger for it"

"Working on the solution instead of the problem has taken me further forward then anything else I have tried."

"I've seen so many therapists but you're amazing! I come out of each session so much more self-aware and enlightened."

"I felt so useless and alone after I had my baby, and forcing myself to have sex with my husband made it worse. This book has helped me see in little ways how I can enjoy being a mother and a wife - which means I can enjoy being me! Thank-you."

"Thanks again for your brilliant life-changing support. "

"We have noticed a real shift in our energies towards each other since seeing you, almost like switching from AM to FM radio, the difference is that noticeable."