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#65: An Orgasm a Day Keeps the Doctor Away - why sex is so good for you

Jacqueline Hellyer - Monday, November 12, 2012

I firmly believe that the reason humans have evolved to be so sexual is because sex is so good for us. While almost all other mammals have sex only to procreate, humans (and some of the other “higher” more intelligent mammals) can have sex at any time - and do!

Keep in mind that I mean quality sex here, not obligation or duty sex. It has to be real sex, and that includes solo sex, that you are genuinely enjoying and gaining pleasure from. It doesn’t even have to include orgasms, it’s about the quality of the whole experience, not achieving anything.

It can be simple or fancy, the only indicator of whether it’s quality is whether it feels good for you and leaves you with a positive sense of wellbeing.

Good regular sex benefits us:

  • Physically
  • Emotionally
  • Relationally
  • Spiritually
  • Socially
Physically, sex tones the muscles, gently stretches the body all over, burns calories, helps with cardio health, respiration, digestion, skin and hair quality, generally keeping you looking young and feeling vital.

Emotionally, sex cures mild depression, releases stress, calms and tranquilizes through the release of endorphins, and the dopamine release makes you feel positive and confident and able to take on the world.

Relationally, sex is bonding due to the release of oxytocin, the cuddle hormone, and vasopressin, the men’s ‘chivalry’ hormone; it builds resilience in a relationship so the little annoyances don’t matter and you’re more likely to act in kind and loving ways to your partner. You also become better parents, as calm, happy loving parents tend to raise calm, happy loving children (or at least are better able to deal with challenging ones!)

Spiritually, I believe that bliss and ecstasy are a human need, one which so many people seek artificially, but one that can be met through the release of natural opiates from your own body from good quality, connected love-making, enabling you to grow spiritually, feeling more blissful and acting in loving ways.

Socially, a society in which people were having regular quality love-making would be one where people were physically and mentally healthy, emotionally solid, with strong relationships and families - spiritually aware. All in all it would be a pretty darn good society in which to live!

So make love - for the betterment of yourself, your loved ones, your society and the world!


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