Everyone does have masculine and feminine in them, and well-developed people will have a pretty good balance within themselves. But the essence of each gender is different from the other, and if we reject one, thinking the other is somehow better, we reject a major aspect of ourselves. The Sensitive New Age Wimps, for example, are the men who have lost, or at least temporarily misplaced, their true masculinity.
The essence of the feminine is to be soft on the outside and strong on the inside. In fact it’s only by being soft on the outside that the inner strength of a woman can emanate. Otherwise, as a woman, you’re creating a false strength on the outside, which is hard to sustain, is brittle and prevents your true strength from blossoming and showing.
So much of my work with women is essentially around this. It sounds esoteric, but once you get it, it makes such a difference at so many levels.
I want to stress that I am NOT talking about women being soft and weak and pathetic. That some people might think that’s what I’m talking about is just proof that our society devalues the feminine. It is strong to be soft. We need more of the feminine in this society. We need women to embrace their essential selves.
You can then express your womanliness in many different ways – I’ve come up with seven feminine sexual expressions that create a whole empowered sexuality. Read my book Seven Sex Goddesses, to discover all seven and become fully whole.
There is no limitation in how you express yourself as a woman. The important thing is that if you want to be an empowered woman, you have to really embrace the power and glory of being a woman in the fullness of the female principle – soft on the outside, strong on the inside.