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#248: Make-Over Your Sex Life

Jacqueline Hellyer - Saturday, January 12, 2019

Can you makeover your sex life? 

Of course you can! That’s what I’m all about.

Essentially a makeover is when you realise you’re not living up to your potential in some area of life and you set about changing that. Many people simply accept their “lot” in life, excusing even the possibility of change with beliefs that: “I’m too old”, “I’m too poor”, “I’m too whatever”. Other people realise that we have agency to create our own lives, so it’s up to us to choose to be however we want to be. This applies as much to sex as any other part of life.

In fact, I think a sexual makeover is essential to any other life makeover. We are essentially sexual creatures, our sexuality is fundamental to our being, and therefore to our well-being. So if you’re considering a lifestyle makeover, you’ve got to include sex.

Sometimes people say to me that they’ll fix the other “stuff” before they address sex.

I say, no, Sex is at the base of all life! So start at the base!

Start transforming your sexuality and you’ll start transforming your life.

This is one of the things I love about sex. Once you really start looking at your sexuality and working on your sex life, everything changes. It can’t help but change. It’s potent stuff.

So how do you go about a sexual makeover?

As with any makeover:
  1. Acknowledge that you need to do it.
  2. Believe that it’s possible.
  3. Clarify your desired outcome.
  4. Get the advice or support or inspiration that you need.
  5. Do it!
It’s up to you to take the first step.

From then on other people can help you.

So much of what I do is dispelling the myths around sex that hold us back. Anyone can improve their sex life if they choose to. If I can do anything for you at all, I can help you believe that improvement is possible.

Most people have no idea of our human sexual potential. There’s so little information around about what sex is, why it exists, how it helps us, how it can manifest. Most of the West still seems to be milling around primary school level, when there’s veritable post-graduate possibilities out there!

Clearly, I firmly believe in step four. Whether it’s private coaching and therapy, attending workshops and retreats, or reading and listening to books, blogs and podcasts there’s tons of advice, support and inspiration to be had. There’s an increasing amount of sex-positive information and services available these days.

Then once again, it’s up to you to take the fifth step. You can have all the guidance and support in the world - you’re the only one who can do it.

Transform your sex life - transform your life - transform the world!

Seriously, imagine if everyone in the world made over their sex life and was having great sex, how much happier would this planet be!


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