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#280: Get A Life! Your Sex Drive Needs the Dopamine

Jacqueline Hellyer - Saturday, January 25, 2020

The neurotransmitter dopamine makes us feel good and positive and upbeat. When we have healthy levels of dopamine we have a positive outlook on life and have energy and motivation - and a better sex drive!

When dopamine levels are low we feel sluggish and down, the world is grey and everything is an effort - including sex.

To increase your sexual desire you need to do things that increase your dopamine levels.

Having goals in life and achieving them is one way to keep the dopamine high. That’s why it’s so important to enjoy your work and get positive feedback from what you do and achieve.

It’s not just big goals though, any small achievement, especially if you take the time to notice it and reinforce the positive feeling will keep your dopamine levels up. In fact, it’s good to keep this in balance so that you don’t have wild fluctuations. So notice all the good positive things in life, take a moment to really appreciate them and keep the positive feelings going.

Exercise is great too. It doesn’t have to be intense, just get up off your butt and go for a walk! Walk to a park at lunchtime, or go for a walk after dinner and enjoy the evening.

Eat healthy food, food that makes you feel uplifted, not heavy. So ditch the heavy carbs, high sugar and processed foods and eat fresh, invigorating foods.

Reduce your caffeine and nicotine intake, which gives you an artificial stimulus. And definitely avoid drugs like cocaine and amphetamines because these cause higher levels of dopamine in the brain than the brain can handle and so can lead to addiction.

It’s much better to raise dopamine levels naturally.

Doing new and interesting things raises your dopamine levels. Doing the same old same old lowers them. This is why the same old evening routine including hours being a couch potato in front of the TV is not foreplay and never will be. Get up and go for a walk, or play a board game, or sit and chat, or any number of things that are more interesting and stimulating than the idiot box.

Take control of your hormones by getting a life, and use them to get a get a sex life!


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