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#211: Seven Sex Tips for Busy People

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, September 24, 2017



Life in the 21st century is fast paced, so fast paced that it’s easy to get caught up in all the busy-ness.

Busy isn’t bad, not if you’re relishing life as you busily experience it. But, and it’s a BIG but, if you let life carry you along on an endless wave of manic activity, then you won’t even notice you’re living, you won’t be enjoying it, and you won’t be making the time to savor all the wonderful things that life offers – including sex!

Wouldn’t you love sex to be a blissful haven away from all that frenetic stuff?
Wouldn’t you love to have sex that leaves you renewed and refreshed, that leaves you feeling fabulous?

Here are the seven fundamental sex tips to help you as a busy person have that blissful haven of fabulous sex. Read them, and, if they make sense to you and you want practical advice on how to use the Secrets in your life, buy and read my full book Sex Secrets for Busy People (don't worry, it's short - it's designed for busy people!)


Sex Tip Number 1: Sex is Energy

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#211: Seven Sex Tips for Busy People

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, September 24, 2017

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#206: The Look of Love - Eye-Gazing

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, August 20, 2017

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#205: Quanta of Deliciousness

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, August 13, 2017





Every time you do something for or say something nice to your partner it’s like you’re sending them a little bundle of loving sexual energy, a little quantum of deliciousness.

“Ping!”

Imagine that quantum of energy springing across from your heart and into your partner’s heart. Make them feel the “mmm” - “mmm, you love me” and “mmm, you desire me”.

“Ping!”

Mmm

It’s the same when your partner does or says something full of joyful energy to you too - you feel that little quantum of energy enter you, so you go ‘mmm’.

“Ping!”

Mmm

Sometimes the energy is more from the heart, and sometimes more from the genitals. Ideally it’s from both, so you’re sending and receiving energy that combines love and sex.

That’s your 'beforeplay' – the connection that you create before you even get to the bedroom, the connection that needs to permeate the whole of your life together.

Keep sending those quanta of deliciousness and you’ll keep your connection strong, which means the two of you will be keeping... read more


#205: Quanta of Deliciousness

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, August 13, 2017

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#204: How to Maintain the “Mmm-Factor”

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, August 06, 2017



Kids, mortgages, housework, career ...

Are those the priorities in your life?

Next you try to fit in some nice-to-haves: gym, net-surfing, watch some TV, repainting the lounge...

After all of that there's not a lot of time left for much else is there?

Does that sound like your life? Pretty good on the whole, shouldn’t complain, but something’s missing? Does it feel like you’re doing it tough? Do you feel somehow unsupported as though you’re going it alone, even if you have a partner…?

Chances are, like so many busy modern couples, you’ve lost the “Mmm-Factor”.

If you’ve relegated intimacy to the bottom of the priority list, if it’s even there at all, you’re not alone. Time after time I see clients in my clinic saying: “We’re best friends, but aren’t having sex”, “We live like flat-mates”, “We just can’t seem to get around to it”, “My partner is never in the mood” (and it’s just as common for the woman as the man to be complaining about the lack of sex.)

The good news is that you can regain and nurture what I call the “Mmm-Factor”.
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#197: Sex is Good, Sleep is Better

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, June 18, 2017

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#197: Sex is Good, Sleep is Better!

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, June 18, 2017

 

Whoa! Isn’t that blasphemy, coming from a Sex Coach?

Sleep is better than sex? Hello - has Jacqueline gone crazy?

No, I’m not about to ‘fess up and declare that I don’t practice what I preach. I’m not going to tell you that most of the time I actually prefer curling up in bed with a good book and a box of chocolates - although sometimes I do. My point is that for very many people, myself included, without enough sleep you don’t feel like sex.

Time after time I get exhausted people coming to me wondering what’s wrong with them, why they don’t have any desire for sex. The answer is pretty simple – they’re too tired.

Exhausted, flat, overwhelmed, worn out, drained… None of these states are conducive to a raging libido.

Like anything in life, the better the physical and mental state you’re in, the better you’ll perform. This applies whether we’re talking about work, sport or play - including sex.

We modern urban Westerners are a pretty overloaded bunch, way too up-regulated and with far too much to do. If you’re going for it all day long, then chances are you’re not going to be... read more


#192: Good Rest=Good Sex

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, March 05, 2017




Rest is a topic I could go on endlessly about. It’s so important for our mental and physical well being to rest properly and by “rest” I don’t mean vegetating in front of the TV for hours on end.

Rest is also essential for good sex. Good sex is an energizing experience, but if you’re too tired it won’t be good, if it exists at all.

So you have to find rhythm and flow in your life. On a daily, weekly, monthly, seasonal and yearly basis, you need to balance the intensity and busyness with rest and ease. Take a moment to check in on whether you have this rhythm in your life: where are you doing well, where do you need more? I’ve found in my work with people that this is one of the most important elements to be being able to find the temporal, mental and physical space to have a wonderful sex life.

I read a study once of peak tennis players. The researchers were trying to identify what made the subtle difference between the elite players and the champions. They studied diet and training and all sorts of variables. The only difference they could find was that... read more


#192: Good Rest=Good Sex

Jacqueline Hellyer - Sunday, March 05, 2017

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