…the word that is, not the act.
I detest the use of the word “penetration” in relation to intercourse.
It’s such an aggressive term. Think about it: what’s a woman going to do if she’s about to be penetrated by a penis? Raise the barricades! Batten
down the hatches! Start defensive maneuvers! She’s certainly not going to open up, invite in and welcome the penis into her depths.
I’ve helped numerous women overcome their fear of sex, painful intercourse and vaginismus simply by changing their language around sex.
Even for women without sexual fears, thinking about intercourse as penetration can cause a hardening of the vagina and tensing of the genital area.
And causes her to guard herself against the man.
For good sex you want the woman to open herself to her man and invite him in. She needs to be good and ready so that she really wants his penis inside
her. If she’s not ready and yearning for it then sex is not going to be good.
Good sex is about two people connecting. The penis enters the vagina and the vagina envelops and... read more
I was chatting to a good friend recently who, like many people, loves sex and loves the general topic of sex. He was musing on whether he might possibly be a sex addict given that he’s so fascinated, possibly even obsessed, by the topic. My reply was: “I hope not, because that would make me one too!”
