Can I make this very clear?
SEX MUST NOT HURT! NOT EVER!
If it does hurt, change what you’re doing.
Just to be even clearer. I’m not talking about consensual pain, which some people like and are perfectly entitled to like. I’m not talking about what for some people is a turn on.
I think this should be obvious, but plenty of women come to me trying to push through the pain.
I’m talking about hurt, pain that feels off, pain that feels as if there’s something wrong.
First off, get a medical check-up in case there’s a problem that might be able to be treated medically.
Quite often though, it’s either mismatched genital size or having intercourse too soon.
When he’s too big
If the man has a long penis and the women has a short vagina, then positions where he’s going in deep will be painful. You need to experiment to find out what positions work for you as a couple. Generally you need positions where he can’t get in too deep. Some suggestions are:
- Positions where she has her legs together and his are wider,
- Avoid positions where her back is arched, such as deep doggie where her chest is low, try it in a bridge position with her back flat,
- When she’s on top, face... read more